- 6 years ago
Three weeks ago-ish, my dad called me and TOLD me that he was going to be paying for our reception meal. Now, I don’t think he’s ever been consistent in a single thing he’s ever said to me, so I was skeptical to believe he’d contribute anything. The plan was that he was to give me $200/wk. from now until the wedding until the reception was paid off. Sure enough, two weeks in a row, my father left $200 for me with a relative (our schedules do not allow for us to meet up, as he works out of town). During that time span, dad was calling me every to every other day to talk and to let me know when he’d be dropping the money off, etc. We seemed to really be re-bonding, and I felt like he’d turned around. Like he was finally gonna come through for me, for once in my life.
Flash forward to today, I haven’t heard from my dad in 9 days. He never left me any money last week, and as far as it looks, isn’t leaving any this week, either. I am pretty sure he’s upset because I booked a pro-photographer (an unnecessary expense, in his eyes), so he isn’t going to contribute any further. I could be wrong, but that’s what it is looking like. Our last conversation was about me booking a photographer and he acted really strange. I believe he thought I’d used the money he’d given me for the reception to pay for the photographer. I didn’t. I used my own money. I told him that because he was paying for the reception, and ultimately saving me $2500, I had the extra money to get a photographer (who was a complete steal, btw). He’s really weird about giving money. He has to know exactly where his money is going, and if he finds out you spent it on something else, he freaks. Forget the thousands in back child support he owes, I did not spent a cent of his money on my photographer. The $400 he gave me is put away and will go towards the reception meal, just as I specified.
I would maybe think he was having financial issues, if it weren’t for his gf posting every five seconds to FB about the new things my dad has bought her and my siblings. Which, of course, she is only doing out of spite because she knows my father hasn’t given me anymore money and she is attempting to hurt my feelings.
Sighh. I don’t know what to think/do. I never asked my dad for any money and was frankly shocked to have received $400 from him. So, I guess I am at least thankful for that. I just wish he would have never promised that he was going to cover our reception, or that I would’ve had the common sense enough not to trust that. I had a major weight lifted off of my shoulders when I thought he was coming through, now that weight has all plopped back down again.
I’m not too sure what I hope to gain from writing this post. Just need to get it out, that’s all. Thanks for reading!