- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I realize that I’m being a little childish here so be kind but I need to vent somewhere and this seems like a good place. I’ve had problems with my mom throughout wedding planning and it’s really starting to get me down. It started with her response to our engagement which was: are you actually going to get married? To put this in context, I’m 25 and have been dating the same guy for almost 5 years, it wasn’t all that crazy. I put it behind me and just went on being excited about getting married. Then, two weeks later she calls me and tells me that she and my dad are happy to contribute financially to the wedding (which we are super thankful for!) but that she wanted to know nothing about the planning. This again, made me a little sad that my mom just didn’t want to be involved but FI’s mom loves wedding stuff so I just have used this as an opportunity to bond with her instead. When I picked out a wedding dress I loved, I called her on the phone to try to make her feel involved, and all she says is that she’s not really sure it’s the right style for me (I was sending her phone pics). I bought the dress anyway because I love it, but again it got me a little down. Then came two months of her shopping for a MOB dress in which every weekend she would send me pictures of white dresses that she was planning on wearing. I got pretty frustrated because well, I want to be the only one wearing white! Eventually she settled on a blue dress, which I’m happy with and she clearly loves and then she started shopping for shoes. So, last week she calls me and asks for suggestions on shoes and I listed a couple different stores I thought she might try to find good evening shoes. Then, she asks me about my wedding shoes and I tell her the brand and color, etc. Last night she calls me excitedly telling me she bought THE EXACT SAME SHOES for her to wear to the ceremony. I don’t fully know why but this bugs the heck out of me. I have a lot less money than she does and these were a big splurge for me and somehow it just makes them feel less special. I feel a little like I’m acting bridezilla-y for being annoyed but I am and just needed somewhere to let this out. Some days, I seriously can’t wait to just be married .