Vent about my parents and their reaction to my wanting pets but no kids

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 62
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Busy Beekeeper

” he does still unfortunately have an issue with jumping on people”

= untrained. 

Yes, a puppy is usually untrained. Its still annoying, which was my point.

Post # 63
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I don’t like most dogs (was bit as a child, amongst other reasons). My friends are almost all dog owners/lovers and all know that I do not share that sentiment. Most of them are very respectful (both the humans and the dogs) when I come to visit. To give a good example, my friend has a golden doodle. When I enter their home she holds the dog to keep it from jumping on me and to calm its “omg a new person!” excitement. Once the dog is calm I usually let it smell my hand and then we both leave each other alone. It might be work asking your dad if you could do something like this (or something else that he would prefer) to make him more comfortable in your home.

 

One the flip side, I have a friend with a small dog who I don’t think does enough to keep the dog from bothering me, nipping at me, jumping on me, etc. As a result, I try to avoid going to that home.

Post # 64
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Worker bee

I totally get how you feel … it is a dog lover thing, lol. But really, I have been offended by people being rude to my dogs, too. They are my babies and I cannot fathom someone not being a dog person BUT some people just aren’t. I am learning to come to terms with it. We have a neighbor who “hates dogs” (I can’t stand her) and when she is around I am sure to keep the dogs away. Such is life.

Post # 65
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Worker bee

Agree 100%. We have friends who aren’t the biggest fans of dogs. These friends also have a kid. I’m not the biggest fan of kids. It has always miffed me that I have to be conscienscious about setting boundaries with my dog and can’t always bring it to places, but tht my friends can bring their kids on our camping trips or to our house, no questions asked! I don’t enjoy the noise or pretending I am interested in playing with the toy this kid offers me, but I have to suck it up. I do my best not to get engaged in those scenarios, but I kow that people think I am a heartless jerk just because I don’t light up when a kid enters the room. It definitely sucks when people don’t respect that you have a bond with your pets, whether or not it is equivalent to a parent-child relationship is irrelevant.

Post # 66
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Blushing bee

Maybe he’s afraid of dogs? 

Post # 67
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

ladytimberwolf :  you don’t actually have to have children come on camping trips or come to your home. Our home is strictly childfree. It is not a suitable environment for children and I’m not prepared to childproof it for visitors. Our friends know this and our respectful. That said, they’re all happy to have time away from their children and I think I have only been to maybe half a dozen events in the years they’ve had kids where children have been present.

With the camping, personally if kids were there that wouldn’t be a holiday for me, so again, you can either ban kids (if you’re organising it) or decline to go.

Post # 68
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Busy bee

My dad doesn’t like dogs and hates cats. Since neither my dog or cat speak english I would not be offended if he told them to go away and that he doesn’t like them. Nor does it bother me when he forgets their names.

Post # 69
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Helper bee

rusticchic212 :  

My husband and I love cats. Unfortunately, we can no longer own one due to my severe allergies and asthma. My family hates animals. They think it’s gross to have animals in the house. I know that I cannot change their feelings so I didn’t get offended when we had a cat. 

Your father did not have to say such things to your dogs but he isn’t required to love your dogs as much as you do. I’m sorry that your feelings are hurt. 

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Not gonna lie bee jumping dogs is bad.

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