(Closed) Vent about people taking advantage of the system

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 62
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@mayflowerbride13:  It is weird because there are some people that do all the “wrong” things and never get sick!  Like heavy drinking and smoking and – ugh!  Some people don’t even get hangovers.  What the heck?  🙂

Post # 63
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Bumble bee

@mayflowerbride13:  I don’t understand why you are upset about another person’s health and weight. You’re not her spouse or loved one, I don’t think you get any input. At some point in life we all make poor choices. Her poor choices are for everyone to see and judge. Thank GOD that people can’t easily see all the ways I fall short.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@mayflowerbride13:  

I thought WB was a place where we can vent through our frustrations, but did not realize that meant that it would be necessary for people to make those frustrations even deeper by getting all uppity and judgemental themselves.

I had a bad day, I’m frustrated with a co-worker causing extra work for me. I just wanted to let it out, you don’t agree. that’s great, but please get off my case. Venting is to let it out, not get harped on further.

If you want to vent without commentary, buy a journal.  Posting on a public forum about an issue that you’re obviously aware may be offensive to others isn’t going to automatically give you posts echoing understanding.

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@DrTeeth:  +1

OP, if you’re mad that your coworker is lazy and fakes illness during busy times, that’s one thing. But you’re talking about her eating habits like they’re a character flaw. Maybe she has an eating disorder. Maybe she is depressed and poutine is the only thing she has to look forward to. 

If you don’t want to listen to her talk about her weight, just tell her that. It’s okay to say “I feel frustrated when I give you advice that you don’t follow, so I’d rather not discuss this topic anymore.” 

But when you post on a public message board, you can’t expect that everyone will just be like “lol yeah I hate fat lazy poutine eaters too haha gross lol.” Or at the very least, if you get to judge me for the way I eat, I get to judge you for the way you talk about people. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Side note, I had no idea what poutine was until reading this thread.  

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have you read the don’t sweat the small stuff series?  There’s one for the workplace.  Helped me.

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@DrTeeth:  poutine is awesome – though its weird that OP mentions it in the US, its Canadian and I’ve never met an American friend who knew what it was.

 

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@mayflowerbride13:  I hear you, I can’t believe some of the health stats. Do you ever think there’s something wrong with the system?  That it exists in a way that people aren’t getting what they need so they feel the need to take advantage of it.  I think alot of people aren’t educated or aware enough ot know how to eat/exercise.  I think consumption culture encourages fast food.  I think universla health care, though it too is a “system” is somewhat fairer and accessible so issues don’t fall on employers.  I’m just saying look big picture.  It’s hard not to take it personally, but I don’t think she’s doing it to harm you.  

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@DrTeeth:  I don’t want to comment on anything else but this. Where are you from, and how did you not know what poutine is? lol

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@jessmicas:  haha, I’m from the US – Pennsylvania.  I had no idea.  I kept thinking “Maybe like chocolate pudding?”  So that’s what I kept imagining in the story until I did a Google search XD

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@DrTeeth:  I personally hate poutine – it’s the most vile thing on the face of this planet (the way it looks, tastes; and the way people eat it makes me sick) but being a Canadian (it’s like our national dish) maybe I assumed everyone knew what it was… 😛

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@jessmicas:  It doesn’t look appetizing at.all. 😛

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

First off  – everybody judges, whether it be positive judgment or negative EVERYBODY judges. Without judgment nobody would ever be fired. People need to take responsibility for their actions or they will never change. It is tiresome to listen to someone bitch about their health problems, money problems, etc, when THEY CHOOSE not to eat healthy or CHOOSE to go into a profession where jobs are not in demand. Why should anybody show sympathy towards someone when the problems that person is dealing with are problems they created themselves by bad decisions they continue to make when they KNOW better? I’ll save my sympathy for people who have real tragedy, the innocent chilldren and teachers who were killed a week ago…

Post # 74
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Sugar bee

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@DrTeeth:  I’m from New England and only heard about poutine within the past ten years or so, and then only because I became online friends with some Canadians, LOL!

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think we can all agree that co workers and having to help cover for the absence of others can be stressful. 

I HOPE we can also all agree that it is better to have STD, FMLA, and accessible health insurance for everyone, even if a few take advantage, than not have anything for anyone. 

 

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