(Closed) Vent about wedding night.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t want that either.

But, given that he works there and probably gets a discount, were you not kind of expecting some of his family to take advantage of it?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is there somewhere else that you guys can stay, even for just the wedding night? If not, are you close enough with this family to say anything? I wouldn’t like that either.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

i can understand where you are coming from, however, he works there, his family is coming from out of state, you and your Fiance are staying there….it seems to make perfect sense that they stay there too!  you will have your own private room i assume?

maybe plan another weekend getaway in a few months and call it your honeymoon getaway.

Post # 6
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

Unless you’re all sharing one giant room there’s nothing to be upset about. You can’t dictate to people that they can’t stay in the same hotel. That’s ridiculous.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am not seeing an issue, but that is me.  Maybe this is one of those things that you should step away from and rethink it in a week.  If it is still bothering you then, maybe you should sit down with the FH and explain your issues with this.  Then you will take the emotion out of it on both sides and talk about it logically.

Post # 9
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my advice is not to let people know what room you are staying in – be sure to speak to the manager so he is aware of this specific requirement

 

Post # 10
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

MissHoneyBun took the words right out of my mouth.

Post # 12
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7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@xshellx2003: what does your Fiance want to do?  does he want to spend time with them at all considering he hasn’t seen them in years?  or would he rather they stay somewhere else too but just doesn’t want to confront them about it?  i would work out something that makes both you and your Fiance happy.  like maybe just the wedding night stay somewhere else, then plan to spend some time with his family if that;s what he wants for a couple of days.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@xshellx2003: I am totally with you.

 Who on earth wants to spend their honeymoon with his (or her)parents?

I think this is inconsiderate of them. I can understand them wanting to see the place where their son works, but this would push my buttons also.

I do think tksjewelry  gave you good advice however. Wait a week so you can have a calmer discussion with him.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Okay so he hasn’t seen his family in years and he will have the rest of his life with you. I totally understand that it is your wedding night and all (I would be mad if my his family stayed in the same hotel as us as well) but I think if he wants to spend some time with his family you should accept that. But if he doesn’t really want to see them but doesn’t want to say no I think there should be a bit more of a discussion. It is all about compromise =)

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