(Closed) VENT – Am I wrong or mean for being jealous?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

You’re not a bad person.  You like your BF’s family and envy other women becoming official members.  That says you like your Boyfriend or Best Friend and his family.  Both good things if you see yourself marrying this guy some day.

Post # 4
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Booknerd:  “But she got a Disney proposal, so I was IMMEDIATELY jealous of that.  We also have the same favourite princess, Belle. In fact, she gets to BE Belle at the parks – super DUPER jealous!”


this part struck me as pretty odd, to be honest.

Post # 5
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3152 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You lost me at Disney princesses…

but really, every relationship moves at its own pace. Be truly happy for them, enjoy your relationship and things will fall into place. 

Post # 7
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9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I take it from your post that you are in the “Waiting” Category… while these two ladies… Nerd’s Brother’s Girlfriend.. and Uncle’s Girlfriend BOTH received recent proposals.

Like it or not, no matter how long or short they’ve been around… (or you have)… there has been a shift in their status… up to Fiance.

As a Mom myself, I can tell you that we don’t tend to get all uber friendly (welcoming) with the Dates / SOs that our Children bring home UNTIL they are engaged.

As much as you enjoy the one you are dating, we too tend to have feelings, and can get connected to these people too.

It sucks (and cause issues with our kids) if they bring someone home we really like the company of… only to discover the next time we talk, that they’ve broken up.

As a Parent you don’t want to cause strife in your Kid’s life (or the relationship that you have with them) so you learn to go with the flow… and protect your heart a bit, by not becoming overly involved.

BUT once they say “we are Engaged… this is the one”… then all bets are off.

If we like you, then YES we are certainly gonna show our approval / enthusiasm, / “Welcome to the Family” side of things.

You gotta remember if we jump the gun… chances are either..

(a) we get our feeling hurt

OR

(b) Our Kids get peeved with us for “getting too involved’ in THEIR LOVE LIVES

So the best situation is just to keep our distance / stay out of it.

Hope this helps,

PS… Eventually your time will come as well… so don’t fret about it.  You have NOTHING to be jealous of.  Enjoy “the phase” that your relationship / life is in now.

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