(Closed) Vent and concern

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t feel guilty at all! You aren’t having a bridal party so you shouldn’t even feel guilty about not including them. Even if you were, I think a bridal party is supposed to be made up of people close to the bride and not family because they feel like they have to ask. Plus, i think 9 bridesmaids are way too many. You shouldn’t feel guilty for not asking them to be a part of your wedding party. Instead, get some family pictures taken on your big day!

Post # 5
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with Monkeyface… You aren’t asking ANYONE so its not like you are being rude to them. I also agree that just get family pictures. Those are some of the most important pics in my photo album (the family ones) more so than the wedding party pics. I think you’re golden.

Post # 6
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m feeling the same way!! Choosing bms is such a hassle!

My very best friend chose her 3 sisters over all her friends to be her bridesmaids. I’m still hurt 4 years later. After going to school together since we were 3, I wasn’t chosen?

Post # 7
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@littlenikki: aww. I know how you feel. Thats sort of what happened to me, as I commented on the other post you referenced. I was guestbook attendant at my BIL’s wedding where my Darling Husband was Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Plus, I had already asked her to be in my wedding. So yeh, I know what it feels like to be just on the perimeter of a family that you are/will be just as much a part of. Don’t worry, its sounds like she felt bad if they called your Fiance. 🙂

Post # 11
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t feel bad about it, especially if you are not having a wedding party. 

As far as having your family and in-laws involved in the wedding, the way I see it is that your family will always be there, your grandkids will be looking at your wedding albums.  Even friends you have had for 10+ years you may lose touch with one day. 

Post # 12
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That will be nice that you can put your family pic in the frame instead! Luckily, BIL and SIL took the photos before the ceremony, and my Mother-In-Law wanted me in them, but I was definitely sent off before the receiving line because I had to get the guestbook  to the reception venue and then the receiving line took an hour and I missed some of the other fun stuff like seeing their doves and such. LOL, I know, its silly that I wish I could’ve seen that but oh well. I really hope your wedding planning goes well, and seriously, don’t worry about not having any bridesmaids if that is what you want!! 🙂

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