- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
Let me be the first to say, my fiance is a hard working person. He is a people-pleaser, and bends over backwards for everyone. However, this is really frustrating me, and I don’t know how to express it to him without sounding like i’m saying “You’re not looking for a job the right way! WHY ARE YOU SO LAZY?!”
So, Fiance works a part time job 3.5 days a week. We just graduated from college, and live in a pretty rural area, so yes very local jobs are very limited. However, Fiance has always had big dreams. He wanted to go to law school, and decided that the debt wasn’t worth it (I kind of agree, but would support him 100% if he entered the field), he also talked about going into investigation/law enforcement, he has even talked about going back to school.
He sent his resume to the local sheriff’s dept hoping to be hired (he knows someone who knows someone) and they said while he is a viable candidate and has a top-notch resume that their hands are tied until November when the pension issue in the county is resolved. Great, they didn’t turn him down! But… Now he plans to wait until November to hear from them…. as in he is planning to stay at the job he hates for months more waiting to hear from a job that still may say no. He said he knew someone else who may have another job, but that he doubted he was qualified for it….. so yeah.
I am NOT trying to make him change jobs. He has complained for well over a year about his current job, how they treat him, how he wants to marry me and move in together so badly (we cannot afford it at all right now), and how the only thing stopping him is having a full time job. What do I say? “Well, if you’re gonna wait I don’t wanna hear anymore complaining about your job.” or “If you’re so miserable isn’t it worth it just to find a way out?” are the only things that come to mind, but they sound so harsh. I just want him to be happy again!