Post # 1
I just need to vent. I had a wonderful four days with my amazing Boyfriend or Best Friend for Thanskgiving break, but my family’s contstant nagging is getting old.
We spent two day at my parent’s house, and I got so very annoyed with my Dad and brothers! My brothers kept making comments to us about getting engaged, and that making me wait isn’t very nice and that since he hasn’t put a ring on it he isn’t serious, etc. They told him to get off his butt and do it already. When we were leaving my Dad yelled (over everyone) to my Boyfriend or Best Friend, “At Christmas we need to talk alone before you ask Red Dino to marry you”.
I know an engagement is coming. My family isn’t moving it up any, they are actually more than likely pushing an engagement back because of their comments. I’m happy that they want us married and want him as part of the family. BUT I really wish they would stay out of it and just let us be. Both of my married brothers and my parents got engaged after a few months of dating and were married 6 months later, so they think that this is just so strange to be dating for 20 months and not have a ring!
It will happen on our own time, and I understand my Boyfriend or Best Friend and know that pushing him will make him wait longer.
Post # 3
I agree – they need to back off. WAY OFF. No amount of nagging will make a man propose, and if it did, you wouldn’t want the proposal anyway. You want them to do it of their own free will.
Tell them they are making things worse and to please stop immediately!
Good news is, you KNOW you’re moving towards engagement and that is what he wants. If I only had that I think I could endure anything.
Post # 4
My Fiance told me flat out when we were starting to talk about engagement that if my family made comments like that, he would most definately push back a proposal. (One person made a comment one time, and that’s what made him start to worry that everyone was going to start pushing him.) No, it’s not fair that men punish US for things like this, but it happens. You need to tell them to stop.
Post # 5
@prshadow: Thanks! After typing this yesterday I was so ticked off that I did call the brother being the worst and told him to knock it off and explained what he was actually doing. After I told him that him trying to “hurry it up” was more than likely slowing things down he felt pretty bad. Hopefully Christmas is better, but I’m still not sure what to do with my Dad initiating “the conversation” during Christmas, I have almost a whole month to figure that out!
On the way home from Thanksgiving I did apologize to my Boyfriend or Best Friend for my family. He told me not to worry about it and it wasn’t as bad as I thought, what a nice man!