- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
@TripleNickle: I don’t think you’re being a control freak, and I totally understand why you’re annoyed. Honestly, that would drive me nuts. That said, I do think you need to refocus your frustration from Chris to your husband; Chris is 5, and he’s going to get excited about things. It’s his job as a kid to get excited; it’s you and DH’s job as parents to decide when it’s okay to be loud and when it’s not.
As far as when he’s playing a game, I’d let that go (as long as he’s at home and not in a public setting where it could be disruptive to a lot of people). If he took to screaming every time he did anything playtime, I’d have to talk to him but if he’s just excited and having fun, it’s probably because he’s having such a great time at your house. 🙂 Plus, any future kids will likely do the same things when they’re playing together.
The screaming for attention needs to stop, though. He probably does it at his other household too, and because both parents likely respond to it, he continues. I doubt that it’s meant disrespectfully or to be ugly. You and your DH need to become a united front on this one, because that’s the only way to get the message across to Chris. Have a talk with Chris (after you and DH have talked) and let Chris know that from now on, we need to really use our inside voices. Tell him that he can yell if he has an emergency (and give him examples of what an emergency is), but that if he needs to ask you something/talk to you/etc., he needs to come find you and ask you/talk to you (or DH). Then, if/when Chris yells for one of you that first time after your talk, go to him and say, “Chris what is the emergency!?!” It will likely not be one, so reinforce your rule. If it continues, and you know it’s not an emergency, don’t yell back, don’t run in there to him. Let him figure out that you won’t respond to him like that and the same will go for your other kids.