- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. We’ve discussed future plans but not in depth like about kids, finances, where to live, etc. I always bring it up and his response “well when the time comes we’ll discuss it more.” That response drives me crazy! Yet, he would tell me and his friends that he wants to marry me and have kids but I wonder how if we haven’t had deep discussions. I personally don’t want to wait until engagement to talk about this.
I get the feeling he shrugs off what I have to say. For instance, his friends will call him to complain how their personal issues or relationship troubles and he’s sooo quick to help them and resolve their problems. Some of these “friends” are the same ones that have screwed him over. If I complain about how I feel about something or an issue in our relationship…he’s like “ugh why now?” or “do you just like to argue or what?” His excuse is he hates arguing. Really?!? He doesn’t see any of this as a big deal and that I’m always trying to make something out of nothing. I always tell him this goes back to communication and if we can’t communicate effectively, then the relationship and marriage will suffer.
I just feel like after 3 1/2 years, future stuff should’ve been discussed and our communication should be stronger. Am I wrong for any of this? Is it still considered to early? I get annoyed that when I bring up future plans and/or issues in our relationship, and he gets irritated but yet you want to marry me? Is there anyway to resolve this?
Thanks in advance. I hope this all made sense…