(Closed) vent: bff won’t come to wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

🙁   That’s a sad thing. Does she have problems driving? 2 hours isn’t a long distance to drive (my Fiance and I live an hour away and I don’t even blink at the thought of that drive).  Maybe at the shower, if she is there, then you can just let her know how hurt you are that she isn’t able to make it.  You could suggest she take a greyhound/some other public transit there?  Give her options to make it to see if it’s just the driving or she just doesn’t want to take the time out of her life.

Post # 5
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2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@kelly105:  Well if she says no to that option, then you’ll know that she just can’t take the time to make the effort. At least there’s no confusion on your end about what’s happening.  After that all you can realy do is tell her how sad you aren’t she won’t be making your wedding.  I hope that she’ll come though!

Post # 6
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9650 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry you’re feeling sad about this, I can understand it.  How about writing her an email  explaining how much you miss her friendship and how much her presence at your wedding would mean to you.  I know you may feel hesitant about putting your emotions out there to potentially be rejected, but, then again, she may not realize how much it means to you.  She should, of course, but if you spell it out to her then no matter what, going forward, you’ll know from that point on you did everything in your power to salvage the friendship.  You’ll never have it on your conscience because the ball will be in her court.  I wish you all the best!

Post # 7
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Umm… not sure what happened there, but the response I had here was for a different post. Thank you dumb netbook. What the donkey.

I feel like if she’s not willing to make the effort to make the 2hr drive to your wedding, she probably won’t do so for the shower. So I don’t think you’ll have to worry about that. It’s unfortunate that it’s come to this.

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