(Closed) Vent: BM said it was a rip-off :(

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it really depends on budgets and personal opinions. What some people think is a deal, may be a rip off to others. I don’t think you should take what she said too personally ๐Ÿ™

Post # 4
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CityBearBride:  Congrats on your upcoming wedding. ๐Ÿ™‚

I’d be a bit hurt too considering you did say that they could stay anywhere they wanted, and the suggestions you made were trying to be helpful.

I know it’s really a bummer when one of your bridesmaids is unhappy with something, considering they are such a cool part of the day and people you chose for that very reason. But having just had our wedding, I can tell you that regardless of all the bickering and stress leading up to it, it pretty much all melted away on the wedding day and that’s what matters most.

Enjoy yourself, you can’t please everyone. You can only do your best and if they aren’t happy enough with that, then it needs to be on them to find arrangements that better suit them. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Has she ever been to NYC before?  I felt like everything was more expensive there (my dad is from there).

Post # 6
46375 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People who do not travel often to New York have no idea now much higher the room rates are than in the rest of the country.

It was inappropriate of her to complain to you. Don’t take it personally.

Just remind her that she is free to stay where she wants.

Air BnB perhaps?

She can get a room for as little as $17


or an apartment in the theater district for $161




Post # 7
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@strawbabies:  I spent $200 on food for two in four days in NYC … I’m with you on that!

Post # 8
11351 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with prior posters.  Hotel prices in NYC may seem outrageously high to someone who has never stayed there.  I agree that you should not take her comments personally, even though she obviously isn’t very appreciative of your efforts to help obtain a better rate.  I would follow @julies1949:‘s advice.  Once your bridesmaid begins pricing her own options, she’s either going to find a better price (which may or may not be at a nicer or even decent hotel), or she’ll come to realize that the options you provided are her best, and likely safest, bet.

Post # 10
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

She should have kept her mouth shut! She probably has a separate issue (bad day, PMS, personal problem) and is just taking it out on you. Either that or she just decided to talk without gathering any evidence ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Aww that sucks after you spent so much time looking for reasonable rates! I would just let her know that you are sorry she feels that way, and she is welcome to look for her own hotel room, however, you think that she may find this is a reasonable rate for NYC. Perhaps she didn’t realize how much she would have to spend in accomodation so it was a bit of a shock to her to see how expensive it is to stay in NYC?

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