- 4 years ago
I’m a semi poster but avid reader, I just need to vent since I can’t sleep due to this. I’m not going into too much details but just the main gist of it since this is a public forum. Sorry for any typos ahead of time because I’m on a phone.
My parents don’t like my brother’s SO, it’s not a secret because they told him before. However, they acknowledged that they can’t control who he likes and are civil towards her.
The problems escalated due to differences in culture and traditions. Basically in her culture, the groom’s side has to pay for almost everything, this includes banquet, bride’s dress and makeup, jewelry, list goes on and on, and of course, a dowry. (My culture has a dowry too but it’s more modest.) My dad’s first reaction was no, they’re not paying that much. One, my parents don’t have that much money and two, my dad’s belief is that if you don’t have enough money for a wedding, then don’t get married.
In response, they brought up all these issues of how my parents are treating them horribly. Some of the examples they brought up are misinterpreted but they remain steadfast in their beliefs.
I offered to loan him money for the wedding, but he said no because my parents have to pay otherwise we (and him) would look cheap in front of her family, wtf.
Anyway, I just found out that my parents shelled out close to $20k for wedding related costs. My dad’s stressed out and mad/sad about my brother and the whole ordeal. Because of this, it’s affecting his health.