Post # 1
My aunt is organizing my shower, which is super nice of her. When I was told of the date, my mom specifically said that they were in charge of the invites and that I couldn’t invite anyone on my own because there were already a lot of people coming. Cue Easter at my aunt’s place, where she asks me why my Bridesmaid or Best Man and friends haven’t RSVPed to the shower. I said that I thought they were taking care of it, because my mom said I couldn’t invite anyone… nope. My aunt was super confused because he said she specifically told my mom to tell me to invite the bridal party and friends.
When I asked my mom about it, she got super defensive, so I didn’t push it because it’s not worth making her upset. But because the shower is next weekend and I only found out recently, my BM–my best friend, who’s already been sort of… lackluster about helping with my wedding plans, even though she’s been crazy stoked about her cousin’s wedding earlier this month and hasn’t stopped talking about it–and a bunch of my other friends can’t come, as they can’t get time off work at such short notice or have other obligations they already agreed to. I know that no one has an obligation to attend a shower, but I’m really bummed that I don’t get to spend that time with these people that are important to me. I’m also bummed that my bestie isn’t showing me the same enthusiasm that she did and still is showing for her cousin’s wedding (or previous weddings that she’s been in). I don’t know if it’s worth talking to her about it, as again she has no obligation to do anything other than show up at the wedding the day of, but it’s just… making me sad that she excitedly did all these things for other people, but not for me.
Anyway, sorry for the vent 🙁 Just wanted to get this out somewhere.
Post # 2
Do you know why your Mon said you couldn’t invite anyone? I knew you’re sad but I’m sure they would have came if they were told in advance. Don’t let your one friend get you down. I personally don’t get excited about other people’s weddings, engagements, baby’s, baby showers, etc. Your friend may be excited bc that’s her family. Also, how do you expect your BM’s to show their excitement? I’m sure they are happt for you.
Post # 3
JazzyGirl85: I think it was mostly a miscommunication, so it’s just something that couldn’t be helped. In terms of my bestie, she was just so excited about her cousin’s wedding and other friends’ weddings, like constantly offering to help out and things like that… and I feel like I haven’t received any of that energy from her. Not that she has to, and she’s been on top of anything I’ve asked of her, so I know I can’t expect more. I guess it’s just making me sad 🙁
Thank you, though!
Post # 4
Sounds like you should be laying this at your Mom’s doorstep not your BMs/friends. Why would she have said that? Anyway for whatever reason you let it drop with her, I’d stop letting it get to you. Your friend may be more excited about her cousins wedding because of all the family that is coming into town or because of a whole host of things. People have short attention spans these days and if they are busy working and have their own lives…. well the first thing they could be excited about, the shower, they were excluded from. I’d cut them some slack, as it gets closer they will get more excited.
Post # 5
HisIrishPrincess: That’s a good point that I hadn’t considered. I’ll just let it go and move on and hope to see a bit more excitement from them as the time draws closer. Thanks!
Post # 6
Are your friend’s throwing you a bachelorette party? I understand how you feel about your best friend…I’m somewhat in the same boat as you where my bestie only talks about my upcoming wedding if I bring it up, and I’d certainly like some more enthusiasm from her…but as long as she is there for you when you need her and ask her to help with things, and comes to your wedding, I would let it go. We don’t always get the reactions we want from people, unfortunately. She could not be bringing up your wedding very much because she figures you’re busy with planning and are stressed and may not want to talk about it all the time? Maybe she’s bringing up her cousin’s wedding a lot as a way of relating? Like I said, I totally understand what you’re going through!