(Closed) VENT: Caught in the middle

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think YOU will just need to take the reins and tell them what you’re doing for the bachelorette event, and perhaps learn to expect a little less, not just from your MoH but from the whole wedding party.  This also means giving yourself permission to delegate some things to folks who are not even in the wedding party.

It sounds like a mix of too many cooks, and too many soups. The more you ask of your bridal party, the more likely you’ll reach the point where the thrill is gone and the bridesmaids realize that “hey, this stuff is actual work.”  And the more you try to involve everyone in every decision, the more work you are giving them.  Put them together without a designated leader, and it’s a recipe for a mess.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Excuse me…. your bridal party went to your wedding venue and worked in the yard there? Please explain. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Okay thanks for the clarification. If you think someone ” only ” working for 45 mins doing yard work in someone else’s yard besides her own is lazy then I am flabbergasted. How you deal with “it” is to be grateful that anyone would offer to help you, much less work in a yard for you and move on. Let them figure out the party and stay out of it. I feel like I must be missing something because I don’t really see what the issue is. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@superh2ogirl:  Is there something you would like to do? I would just let them know what you want to do. That way they can’t argue over what’s better. You want both of them there.

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