(Closed) VENT: Celebrating a complicated situation

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Um, yeah, I would feel weird about that too.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s just weird. I can’t imagine the guy even wanting to go out and celebrate when his Girlfriend might be aborting a baby he wants! Unless the Girlfriend ultimately decides to keep the baby, I can’t imagine what you’d all be celebrating??

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@texasbee:  maybe I’m just an old lady but I’ve never heard of a group of guys going out to get drunk to celebrate a pregnancy. It just seems weird. Especially if she may abort. I would not really want to participate. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@texasbee:  I am with you! There is no way I could go celebrate knowing I would do anything to become pregnant and she is taking it forgranted. Good luck in whatever you decide to do 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Totally get and empathize with your frustration. But I also think it’s a super weird violation of that girl’s privacy to celebrate a pregnancy that she is unhappy about and is considering terminating. That’s kinda messed up. Does she know he’s planning this celebratory drunk fest? Yuck.  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s incredibly strange that anyone would share these intimate details with their close friends, let alone co-workers. I’d be getting my resumes together!

oh and I’d definitely skip this party!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I understand that this is her choice (whatever is behind it) and im with you, it does make me sick too, but then why celebrate, it doesn’t make any sense…weird!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

wow.. i couldn’t go. It’s obviously her decision, but it’s definitely not something to celebrate…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Yeah very weird, and definitely not something to celebrate. If you want to go out for fun, I’d say go out but not for that reason. :/

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

the poor guy 🙁  Obviously he was excited about this potential baby and now it might not happen. Maybe he is still pushing this ‘celebration’ as a way to manipulate the girl into feeling too bad to terminate the pregnancy? Or maybe the partying was planned before he knew that she was thinking of aborting? This is just all sorts of weird :/  and seriously, if these people know what is going on with you guys, it is pretty insensitive to involve you in it!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I would be furious if I was getting an abortion and my SO told all of his friends. Their relationship sounds pretty dysfunctional. And it’s incredibly insensitive to invite people to celebrate a pregnancy when you aren’t sure about what you’re going to do…especially if they’re having difficulty ttc. Now she looks like a horrible person, when she may be trying to make the best decision for her. I don’t encourage abortion, but I think it should be their decision as a couple to make. And until then, they shouldn’t bring it up or tell anyone. I mean a close friend if you need to talk, but the minimum number of people. 

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