(Closed) Vent: Contemplating Hijacking FB Comments to Get Someone to RSVP

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@canuckandakiwi:  I wouldn’t highjack the post thread, but a private message nudge wouldn’t hurt.

Post # 5
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367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley

@canuckandakiwi:  I would send her a FB private message.  I’ve used that method for pretty much every shower or party I’ve needed to collect RSVP’s for when people don’t respond in time.  I don’t think reaching out that way via FB would be rude.  If anything she may appreciate the reminder. 

Post # 6
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@canuckandakiwi:  If this happened to me, I would tell her that she will be missed and write her off as a no.

Post # 7
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8988 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Write her off as a no.

Post # 9
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Hyperventilate:  This.  Anyone that won’t respond after that many prompts isn’t coming.

Also, I doubt you need to send her anything.  She’s made her priorities clear by not saying anything.

Post # 10
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670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Definately write her down for not coming! 

Post # 11
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253 posts
Helper bee

@canuckandakiwi:  I think it seems she is ignoring you because she doesnt plan on coming. Sorry

Post # 12
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@canuckandakiwi:  I know exactly how you feel.  I had asked my friend to be my MOH over a year ago.  She agreed.  Suddenly I didn’t hear from her at all.  Granted, she lives far and I did tell her if she couldn’t fulfil the role to let me know.  Nothing.  She emailed me a few weeks back saying, “your wedding is around the corner, how exciting!”  That’s when I emailed her back saying you will be missed.  Haven’t heard from her since.

Post # 14
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@canuckandakiwi:  I’m not sure.  She sounded super excited.  We were willing to pay for her airfare but then it seemed like she wanted us to pay for her entire family to fly over.  That we would not be able to do as it would be four people.  Her husband has a disability and she has two kids.  Before we decided to purchase her airfare, she made it sound like it would just be her coming which is why we offered.  Then suddenly she disappeared, I would message her on FB and see that she was posting status updates but completely ignoring my messages.  Then that’s when I got the random message a few weeks ago.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d give her one more chance to reply by writing a PM saying you need final numbers by X date, so if you don’t hear from her by some deadline, you’ll have to put her as a no. You’ll know if she reads the Facebook PM and then if she ignores that too, eff her she’s not getting a seat!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@canuckandakiwi:  eh. i would just say “hey if we haven’t heard from you by Friday we’re going to mark you as a no. love ya!”

that’s what i plan on saying to people come this Saturday, a week past our RSVP deadline.

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