Post # 1
Weddings have been a topic of conversation on our local morning show for the last few months since one of the hosts recently got married. This morning they were talking about gifts and all the excitement that goes along with ripping open those cards and seeing how generous everyone was. Then they got to talking about TY’s. One woman called in and said that she never sent out TY’s for her wedding because she didn’t see the point. She said that she thanked those who helped them out a lot but as for normal guests, they got nothing. She even went as far as to say that her guests should have sent HER a thank you since she “wined and dined them”. It took everything I had to not call in and rip this ungrateful biatch a new one but thankfully the morning show hosts had that under control. They basically laughed at her and told her how ridiculous that was then continued to make fun of her for a good 10 minutes.
If I were one of this chicks guests I would regret ever giving her a gift. Someone with so little respect for her family and friends who took time out of their lives to attend her nuptials and give a generous gift doesn’t deserve a god damn penny from me. When did society become so entitled? Wedding gifts are GREAT, I don’t think any can argue with that, but you have to atleast show your loved ones that you’re thankful. Blatant disrespect would put you permanently on my shit list.
Post # 3
I should have put this in etiquette. Can someone flag so a mod will move it? 🙂
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: Sort of related, a few months ago I was working part time at an event rental store, and a bride and her Maid/Matron of Honor came in to check out chiavari chairs, She said something about how long thank you cards take to write, and I was listening while she said “That’s why we aren’t writing them. Our DJ is going to say thank you for us to everyone, and tell them not to expect cards. I don’t have that kind of time.”
LOL. I died a little, right there.
Post # 5
Some people are just ridiculously entitled, ungrateful and self centered.
(also I flagged it for you)
Post # 5
It blows my mind that so many couples don’t send thank you notes anymore. Out of the last 4 wedding’s we have been to we have only gotten 1 thank you card. I just don’t get it!??
Post # 6
@Linz1231: Hopefully her guests decide they don’t have “that kind of time” to get her a gift. Some people….
Post # 7
I think my jaw physically dropped during this post! That is so rude. How dare she expect a thank you card from the guests for attending her wedding? What the heck!? That’s a ridiculous parallel for her to draw.
Post # 8
@KatNYC2011: It took everything I had not to say something. People are so inconsiderate!
Post # 9
I think my eyes just came out of my head at work, this is crazy! How can you not write a thank you note to your guests.?!?!?! Some people are just… hmmm… can’t really find a proper word to put on here at the moment :p
Post # 10
Wow, people never cease to amaze me. Well, yes thank-you notes take some time. But you don’t have to write a novel inside each one. A few words to appreciate the gift given isn’t that hard and it goes a long way towards maintaining the relationship with that person.
The blanket thank-you from the DJ wouldn’t cut it for me either.
Post # 11
Yep, my jaw literally dropped. People these days!! Given that you have up to a year to write them, even if she and Darling Husband wrote ONE a day they’d still get them out in time. Ridiculous!
Post # 12
I’m someone who sends a thank you card for every single thing.
But I was talking with one of my friends the other day who just had a baby. She kept receiving tons of gifts and her showers were so close to her due date that she never got thank yous out. It was a difficult pregnancy and now she’s just bone tired. I really sympathized with her. She said people were nagging her about thank yous and the baby is only 4 weeks old. I told her that some times I just don’t think you should have to send a thank you! I mean if you open and receive gifts in front of people, you’re thanking them right there.
Post # 13
Wow. I can’t believe the audacity of that woman to actually say that her “normal’ guests (read: close friends and family who spent time and money to join her in her wedding celebration) didn’t deserve a thank-you. How ungrateful.
(P.S. Moved it to Etiquette for ya.)
Post # 14
I was STUNNED. I even tried to call in but their lines were busy (probably from other people with a shred of common sense). Darling Husband and I had a good laugh, though. Our TY’s went out about 6 weeks after our wedding since we had to wait for our pro-pics and then get our TY’s made but our guests still got ‘em. I was worried about waiting so long but I’m sure most people realized why they were a bit delayed.
And I agree about the novel thing. Most of our TY’s had pretty similar verbage since there’s really not much that you can write to make it terribly personal. We thanked everyone for attending and for their generous gifts (mostly all of which was monetary) so most people had very similar cards. Hopefully no one thought to compare! Lol
I admit that I’m not the best when it comes to TY’s for normal stuff (like bday & Christmas presents) but when we’re talking events like showers and weddings, there’s really no excuse. When someone takes time out of their lives to celebrate and shower you with gifts, the absolute least you can do is spend 30 seconds writing a basic Thank You out. If you can’t be bothered to do that then you shouldn’t have accepted any gifts.
@Gemstone: Thanks! 🙂
Post # 15
@Linz1231: If I was at a wedding and the DJ announced “Thanks! Now don’t expect a card” you can bet I would be digging through that card box to remove my cash from my greeting card.