- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Hi Bees – I think I just need to vent or pour my heart out or something.
Essentially the situation is that my dad is a very Type A person and we’ve all learned how to manage him over the years. 🙂 My Fiance is definitely NOT Type A, but neither is he a laid back and go-with-the-flow kind of person. Truthfully, I’m more Type A and can get frustrated with my FI’s attitude at times, but I’ve also learned to take a step back and see that he is just doing his things his way and that they still do get done (most of the time they get done, haha).
The problem is that they can’t work together. My dad wants responses to emails and texts in a short amount of time, and my Fiance has other priorities and can’t get back to him all the time. So I hear from both sides about their frustration with the other, such as: (from Dad) “I know he has his phone on him all the time because I see him text other people, so don’t tell me that he can’t respond to me.”, and then (from FI) “I don’t see why I should have to respond to everything on his schedule and in his way of doing things”. I can see both of their points. But right now they signed up to do a fundraiser together with my Dad helping to lead it and my Fiance donating some of his services… but it caused a huge blow up because Dad wants communication in a short period of time and Fiance doesn’t see the need for it.
Right now Dad wants nothing more to do with Fiance and ditto for Fiance with my dad.
Because I’m more like my dad, I really do see things more his way. But I also do see my FI’s perspective. I’m a firm believer in just sucking it up and getting on with it, so I can’t see why my Fiance won’t just reply quicker when he can, and why my dad can’t be a bit more patient. But neither seem to think they are in the wrong. If I could handle their communication myself then I would!
I’m at a loss and actually in tears because of how they are both talking about each other. They both mean the world to me but they are losing respect for each other and I don’t know what to do.
I just needed to vent, I guess, because I’m not sure that there’s anything that anyone else can do either. 🙂