(Closed) Vent!!! DH forgot about me!

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

So you talked to him this morning about wanting to go and he still forgot?

I don’t know that I’d deal too well with that especially if you are having trouble making friends.

I’d address it calmly but make sure he knows you are really hurt by what he did and “oops sorry I forgot” isn’t going to cut it.

I’m sorry that happened.


Post # 4
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900


Post # 5
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

For seriously? Boys can be so lame sometimes.

Post # 6
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I am so sorry he did that. That would make me really upset too. I would make dinner tonight, only enough for you and say you figured he wasn’t hungry. Ok, I probably wouldn’t do that, but I would talk to him and tell them how upset you are. I don’t think “having a bad memory” is a good enough reason to do something completely different then what the two of you had already discussed.

Post # 8
9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

That would tick me off, too.  But it sounds as though your communication wires got crossed, maybe?  Do you think he interpreted something as your not wanting to go to the luncheon?  But, honestly, men sometimes!  They could learn to talk, lol.  Try to find out the explanation for it when you see him at dinner, maybe he really just thought you didn’t feel up to going.

Post # 9
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m amazed at what people can forget sometimes – myself included. And my Fiance is contantly telling me to remind him of things, and I’m afraid I’m nagging, but he says I’m not.

I know you must be so terribly disappointed. You’ll have other chances to meet people, though. 

Post # 10
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@texasbee:  I think it’s really important you let him know how important it is for you to meet people and how he really dropped the ball.

He’s a grown man. Tell him to put important things on his calendar. Or better yet, use a joint google calendar that is on his phone and set reminders for him. He should be doing this himself but it can’t always be on you to call him and remind him to do things.

The “oops I forgot” method wouldn’t fly at work, so it shouldn’t fly in marriage either. 

Darling Husband and I sometimes have issues where he loses track of time. It’s taken a long time to work through that and have him understand that I don’t mind if he’s going to be late, I mind when i’m left hanging and don’t know whether he’s going to be late or not. I’ve told him I no longer accept “I lost track of time” as an excuse, especially when I have bought him a nice watch in the past!

Post # 12
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Wow that’s pretty bad. I’d be angry too. I think you should let him know how upset you are (shouldn’t be hard), but in the end chalk it up to a miscommunication mistake. These things happen.

Post # 13
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

texasbee My hubbie has a bad memory too….and I hate having to constantly remind him because as you said it sounds like I am nagging and I HATE that…we get into many disagreements over it….but he still forgets….

Post # 14
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ieatunicorns:  I think that’s an awesome idea!  

Post # 15
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@ieatunicorns:  lol that’s a good one. Or say “I forgot you were coming home!!”


Boys can be SO silly.. sorry this happened to you! 

Post # 16
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That would make me extremely upset too:(

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