(Closed) Vent: Did your guests make any weird/rude comments during or after the wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
32 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

@staceynrick: It sounds like you are going to have a really fun wedding actually. The suck an egg thing just made me lol.

Post # 18
27 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

@Misstnt: Haha tell them “I’m not decorating for prom, geez.”  I have tons of different colors and that’s what I would say.  Although I tend to be pretty sarcastic about anything wedding or relationship -wise haha.

Post # 19
19 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had just one guest who kept complaining during the wedding if you can believe it! for instance

– we had our croquembouche cake at the ‘wrong’ time because in France it’s at the end of the wedding (the guest is french)

– the music was too loud to dance to (it wasn’t stopping everyone else!)

– apparently I did my speech too quickly and I still talk too fast (right after my speech)

oh, and she kept calling me Mrs hislastname all weekend, even though I had made it clear to her several times that I wasn’t changing my name (she was the only person to do this and after the 4th or 5th time I thought she was just being rude).

I just put together some blurb photo books, and I really had to make myself put in ones of her and her husband. 

she was the only one though – and no one else complained about anything at all. She is just a moany person – I guess you always get one at a wedding!

Post # 20
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had several comments before the wedding, mostly judgments about my choice of venue, veil, and the works.  I ignored them all.  Thankfully nobody directed any rude comments toward me on the big day, because they may not have lived to finish their sentence!  Innocent

Post # 21
2492 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

WOW! I’m so sorry, that is so rude! I swear adults need to take etiquette classes!

Thankfully, all of our guests were wonderful at our wedding! However, after, a friend of mine for years but one who ….is kinda awkward and needs some etiquette…said “I was suprised you offered a mushroom sauce with the chicken since so many people have allergies” (she works at a hospital in the kitchen/caf area) and I was kinda dumbfounded, especially because we also offered Filet Mignon and a Veggie option. I guess it wasn’t that rude but it annoyed me for sure!

Post # 22
31 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

@staceynrick:LOVE IT!! People are soooo stupid! Seriously, you are a guest not the damn wedding police. I say the less tradtional the better the comments. I can’t wait for ours…

~why are they having a wedding they are already married…they must just want gifts(we married in a private ceremony in 2008 and wanted to have one that included our family, and btw we are asking for donations to our favorite charity instead of gifts).

~what? no full open bar…only one hard alcohol drink, wine, champagne,and beer.

~they sure have a lot of kids(we have 5 together)

etc…people are shallow and lame

Post # 23
821 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

Yeah, my grandmother said “Well, it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.”

Coming from her, that was actually the ultimate compliment!

Post # 24
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeaaaah i had a few. People are just awkward sometimes and say tacky things. No manners…but hey, it reflects poorly on them, not you ๐Ÿ™‚

(i had someone grab my hand, ask me if i was going to wear my wedding bands like that….and go “oh that’s….nice…..” hatin’ on the carats, that’s all ๐Ÿ˜› )

Post # 25
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

A few days ago, one of my coworkers mentioned that the bartender wasn’t making his vodka-based drinks strong enough. Um, we were able to provide our own liquor and sprung for Grey Goose. I guarantee he had at least 7 or 8 vodka martinis. Seriously – suck it.

Post # 26
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

“Yeaaaah i had a few. People are just awkward sometimes and say tacky things. No manners…but hey, it reflects poorly on them, not you :)” -ejs4y8


To answer your question, I don’t remember people saying anything unless it was something WE pointed out didn’t go that well.  We had amazing people help us pull of a beautiful wedding.  I feel SO LUCKY after reading your posts that our guests had such tact.

Post # 27
10 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

A few things, although the day was so amazing most of it doesn’t bother me.

1) Apparently my great aunt complained loudly that she couldn’t hear the vows (it was a beach wedding).  I was a bit preoccupied so I have no idea.

2) A friend of mine made a comment about my dress being “big”=poofy?  It was a modest a-line so I was a bit perplexed, but whatever.  I’m pretty sure I looked awesome regardless ๐Ÿ˜€

3) Not a comment perse, one of my bridesmaids had a bit of a, I’m not speaking to anyone, tantrum during the rehearsal dinner.  She almost refused to go to the bachlorette party because of either jet lag or my theory she hated one of my friends ๐Ÿ™

Post # 28
725 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I just found out that my aunt asked my mom if my mom’s best friend had come out of the closet yet. She’s divorced and didn’t bring a date but I hardly think that qualifies her as a lesbian, and besides that, who ASKS someone that?? RUDE!!!

I also found out that the same aunt complained that her family wasn’t seated closer to the head table. Hm… given the fact that your feedback of the wedding was rude and inappropriate, it’s a wonder that we didn’t seat you closest to us….

Post # 29
645 posts
Busy bee

I feel like I need to prepare myself for the nastiness.  Because it is totally going to happen.

We have had a lot of – how shall I say – ‘feedback’ about the wedding and it’s still ten days away!

Post # 30
3674 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

300 people for a birthday party? Now that’s crazy!

There were a few things people said that pissed me off. My one friend decided right after my ceremony would be the right time to point out how noisy it was b/c a car parked right there with a blasting radio. Thanks for letting me know, as I was in the moment and didn’t hear a thing other than my hubby and rabbi.

And the worst thing, my uncle (who is usually rude) told my hubby he looked awful. That’s a quote, he used the word awful. He had lost a ton of weight b/c he was sick. So yes, he didn’t look his healthiest, but he was still a handsome groom!

Post # 31
3856 posts
Honey bee

We didn’t really get any rude comments, but we were really blunt with our guests (maybe too blunt/open, haha) from the start, so no one was surprised by the lack of alcohol or anything else.

Our DJ did play weird elevator like electronica music during the dinner hour, and we were all kind of like “What the crap is this?” at the head table, but no one mentioned it until we laughed about it to some of the younger tables – at that point, one of my college friends joked that it felt like being on hold, but it was very apparent that he wouldn’t have said anything if we hadn’t first.

Otherwise we didn’t really get any negative comments at all.

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