(Closed) Vent: Did your guests make any weird/rude comments during or after the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had plenty of negative comments about my wedding before since we were having a full mass, getting married in august, had our reception in another state, and we had a catholic gap. But in regards to complaints at the wedding or after we didn’t have any negative comments.

However right before I was supposed to walk down the aisle two of his family members stood right in front of me and talked to each other about how ridiculous I looked and that I was over the top and was making a fool out of myself.

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@roxy821: Some people had to leave, so they just took a cupcake on the way out. It’s just a cupcake.

Really??? That’s just awful 🙁

I’m having a buffet at a formal wedding. I KNOW someone is going to complain about that…and it does happen to be my weakspot, so who knows what will happen o.0

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

The night before the wedding, my husband’s sister went on and on about how the hotel that my mother-in-law was staying at was dingy and reminded her of a hostel and how she would never, ever, ever stay at a place like that. That hotel was where the wedding was held! Even now I am not sure if she realized that the hotel was the location of the wedding when she said those things.

And for the record, the hotel (a B&B, actually) was charming!

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@roxy821:  That’s horrid!  Especially to have to hear that right before you walk down the aisle!  What is WRONG with people??  I don’t know how you held your tongue.  

I guess I just don’t care enough about what people think.  I mean, we’re having a beach themed wedding NOT at a beach; my mom’s making the food because I KNOW people will eat it and because it’s ridiculous to spend $32+ per person for food; I have a “pretty pretty princess”-style dress (David’s Bridal NT8017) and I’m wearing blue Chucks with it because I’d like to take advantage of the fact that I’m short and I also want to be comfortable; the groom’s going to wear khakis, a dress shirt, and a tie (Oh the horror!  No tux!  Not even a jacket!) and except for the color of their shirts, the groomsmen will match him; we’re arranging the reception venue “high school cafeteria”-style (with rectangular tables end-to-end in 4 rows) so that we can fit all 200 people; I’m not using real flowers – in fact, the only flowers we’re using AT ALL are for my bouquet and the ones for the girls, and those are fake (I just think it’s silly to pay thousands of dollars for something that’s going to die in a day or two); I’m walking down the aisle to a song by Guns N’ Roses; our ceremony is completely secular – his dad’s gonna looooove that; we’re providing just a little bit of beer, alcohol, and liquor – I told them we have a license so if they want more than we’ve got, they can bring their own; plus – we asked that any kids under the age of nine and any (no matter what their age) who aren’t listed specifically on the invitation be left at home.  And as crazy as it sounds, all of it ties together so nicely and looks lovely!  If people have a problem with any of it, they’re more than welcome to stay home – we have plenty of people to invite in their place!

Laughing  

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Um.. my aunt who is a hairdresser and was very upset that I didn’t have her do my hair (there were 8 of us getting our hair done, so we booked a salon) came up to me JUST AFTER our pro-photo session of just Darling Husband and me… she started picking at my updo, pulling on bobby pins and said “ew, your hair looks like crap, it looks yucky, let me fix it! You don’t want it looking crappy in your pictures, do you??” I grabbed her wrist and tersely replied “stop touching me, our photos are done, we’re here to celebrate our wedding with family and friends, not worry about what my hair looks like.”

You tell me, does this look like crap?

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@7SEVENJ9:  Some people feel the need to make their point that they feel slighted.  It’s a shame.  You’d think that your aunt would feel relieved that she didn’t have to “work” on your wedding day and that she didn’t have EIGHT heads to work on!  Oh well, you know you looked lovely, and your reaction to her probably put her in her place.  

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Thanks @Nilla79 – honestly, she’s lucky that I didn’t smack her! Pulling bobby pins out of a bride’s hair?! Seriously?

Post # 54
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

some people don’t know their left from the right, so kudos for you guys for brushing these comments off and being the bigger person.  I know I will have to do the same since I’m expecting my aunt to be as wretched if not worst.  For my 16th birthday, she came to my party and told everyone that I was fat (i weigh 100lb. at 5’2″ and no..she wasn’t drunk).  She lectured me for going to college told me I should find a husband and have him take care of me (I’m the first girl to go to college in my extended family).  When i had my graduation party, she outspokenly said that my god son was ugly and he looked like he was going to die from starvation meanwhile his parents, friends of my mom sat there taking it all in (he was fit and slender).  He was 5 at the time, but I could tell he was devastated..

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@7SEVENJ9: You stood up to yourself and I bet she shut up after that!

Post # 56
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@missbabeski – yes, she certainly did! I couldnt believe that she had the gall, but then again, it shouldn’t have surprised me given her track record. The first time she met our best man, she showed him her boobs. At a restaurant. Sigh…

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@7SEVENJ9:  Your aunt reminds me of my ex-aunt:  we went to visit her at her new house, and she made out with the guy I was dating at the time while I was in the restroom.  Class-ay!

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, mine isn’t as bad as some of these, but it’s still pretty rude. DH’s uncle, who lives in Florida, and who has a really bad reputation in the family for being mean and wildly inappropriate, completely and totally ignored us at the wedding, couldn’t even muster a “Congratulations.” At the end of the reception he approached me and said “The fact that there are Mummers here made it worth the trip.” (Mummers are a big Philly tradition). Our WEDDING wasn’t worth the trip, but apparently seeing the Mummers was! I was so STUNNED by what he said that all I could say was “well, I’m glad you’re enjoying yourself.”

WTF?

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@7SEVENJ9 – I would’ve reacted the same way you did.  How rude to start pulling at your hair on your wedding day. 

@Nilla79 – no way, that is just crazy! What a b#$%

My aunt’s husband (I will NEVER call him my uncle) is known to have no filter when he says things.  He has insulted me many many times, but he was invited anyway, because I love my aunt.  The night of the rehearsal, it was raining so the entire bridal party was hanging out in the hotel lobby where the wedding was waiting for it to stop.  Aunt and her husband came down to say hello to us and within 5 minutes, he had insulted my SIL, my Father-In-Law, my Mother-In-Law, and my FIL’s girlfriend.  He told my sister in law she had “nice puppies” referring to her breasts.  He asked my Father-In-Law if he was in Al Quaeda and if he was a terrorist muslim (all he told him was that his name is Armand and he’s Irish, so not sure where that came from), then asked my Father-In-Law if he needed to bring a shotgun to the wedding to take out my Mother-In-Law, which my Mother-In-Law overheard.  She was beyond PO-ed.  Just because they are divorced doesn’t mean that hate each other, you a$$.  This guy also told my Father-In-Law that he lived in the slums after finding out where Father-In-Law lives.  Um, Father-In-Law lives in Boston.  Since when is Boston the slums, you moron?  He also said a few other inappropriate things that I can’t even put on here that’s how bad they are. 

Needless to say, my dad ended up having a chat with my aunt and him on the day of the wedding, which he had been planning to do anyway, and they didn’t take it so well and ended up leaving before the wedding even started.  I was hurt that my aunt couldn’t suck it up and tell her husband to shut up for one day and just decided to leave, but it was probably for the better.  Luckily, we had already pre-warned all my in laws about this guy, so they didn’t take it too badly.  It ended up being a joke by the end of the weekend.

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We didn’t get rude comments, but did have rude behavior.  17 ppl who rsvped yes didn’t show and didn’t bother telling us they couldn’t make it after all.  A couple people (not married and not living together or engaged and did know several other people who were invited) brought uninvited plus ones which didn’t turn out to be a problem in terms of space but was still rude.  I really wish those no shows had given us a heads up so the people who had asked to bring extras but we told them no because of space could have.  I didn’t let it bother me that day but it continues to bother me, especially the no shows.  Even if it was the day-of I would’ve appreciated knowing; it would have showed that they cared and didn’t just blow off our wedding. =(  We found out later that some of them knew ahead of time that they couldn’t go but didn’t bother telling us.  hello, it’s a wedding; we paid for your food, drinks, favors, etc.  and told others they couldn’t come because you said you were coming.  ok, i’m done venting.

Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Not actually at the wedding but we got engaged whilst in Corfu on holiday in Sep 2012, having been dating for almost 4 years at this point. We called our parents and his mum said ‘oh no, it’s Julie’s birthday this week, i don’t want her to be upset’.

Julie is the ex. He’d not been with her for 6 years.

Bless Future Mother-In-Law. We get along great and it’s sweet of her to think of others, but really?

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