- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Sorry this is long!
So today I got a very unexpected voicemail. It was someone from a company in my field, mentioning that “Suzie” had listed me as a reference for a previous job she’s had, and asking me to call back.
“Suzie” and did indeed have job together– we were both interns at the same place pretty recently. I know how hard it is to transition from unpaid intern to Real Job for recent grads right now, and I’m currently looking applying for jobs myself, so I sympathize with her and think it’s great that someone’s considering hiring her and wish her all the best.
I did NOT give this girl permission to use me as a reference, and working with her was horrible! She is literally one of the least favorite coworkers I have ever had. She was lazy and stupid, and I can’t tell if maybe she was secretly not-stupid and just being manipulative to get out of having to do work, but she made work so much more difficult for me that I literally got out my calendar one night and counted how many more times I’d ever have to be in the office on the same day as her.
I felt bad even at the time because she would try to engage me in conversation and I think wanted to be friends, but I was only polite to her because she irritated me so badly with the crap she did at work.
Some examples include:
-She would interrupt my work to ask me really stupid questions or tell me really stupid stories, like “my dog threw up today!” (entire story) or “can you come over here and show me where the backspace is?” I’m not even kidding.
-Sometimes her questions were so incomprehensible (like she’d just point to her computer screen and say “is this the other thing or the one that we, the other day, like [boss] said?” I mean actual gibberish) that I wouldn’t know what she was asking or just say “I don’t know” to get her to leave me alone, and then she’d tell our boss that neither of us understood the task when actually I understood what I was doing, just not how she managed to mess it up
-She would often ask me to finish unpleasant tasks for her right at the end of the day so she could go home early
-She once said she didn’t feel good and had to leave, and asked me to mail a package for her. Irritating, but I said okay. Then she asked me to clean up her dirty coffee mug for her. Literally all she needed to do was put it in the sink on her way out the door, but she was “too sick.” Which like, unless she had a gunshot wound, was the most incredible bullsh*t.
So I have no idea why she listed me as a reference– maybe she knows our boss wouldn’t give her a good one and is desperate, or maybe she’s too dumb to know I hated working with her, or maybe I was such a doormat the whole time she just assumed I’d go with it?
I’m loathe to mess up an opportunity for anyone in this market, but I am not willing to give her a positive reference of any kind. It probably won’t ever matter but I don’t want to be on the record as approving of this girl…I would also feel unprofessional ignoring the call, it’s a small field and I’d feel bad. What do I say?