VENT: ex husband started dating my mother

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Innerdonught :  I pray that is the case because if not what. the. fuck.

Post # 32
356 posts
Helper bee

I’m HOPING for the sake of OP that she is a troll. Otherwise this is just too awful. But things like this do happen, and omg I’m SO sorry if this is true. My relationship with my mother would be completely over if something like this happened. It’s only been a year and a half? There’s a chance that it was going on before your divorce…  UGH that’s disgusting.

Post # 34
1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

anon0987654321 :  I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I can honestly say this would be a point of no return for me – I would never speak to my mother ever again. She’d be dead to me.

Post # 35
3309 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I can’t even begin to imagine the betrayal you’ve just experience… your mother. WTF.

Post # 36
4103 posts
Honey bee

anon0987654321 :  MAYBE (let’s hope and pray) they aren’t dating? You don’t know FOR SURE it sounds like, so maybe hear her out? And if it turns out they are actually dating:

1. Ew

2. To hell with both of them 

Post # 37
104 posts
Blushing bee

I’d call her and give her the benefit of the doubt…just in case.  Perhaps he wanted to talk to your mother about getting back together with you?  Maybe they are just friends?  Maybe she needed his advice about something?

You only get mother.  HOWEVER, if they are dating, block your mother from your life and move on.  I hope it’s NOT what you think!!

Post # 38
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

How could she even be friends with him? 

Post # 39
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018


Thank me later. 


So so sorry you’re going through this. It’s absolutely revolting. Not only that she’s with someone who emotionally hurt you, but was with you intimately. 

Post # 40
4253 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Pardon my french but that is way way way way waaaaay waaaaaaaaayyy WAY f**ked up.  The best advice I have is I would send her the bill for your future therapy sessions….

Post # 41
6169 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Shiiiiiiiit. Are there only three friggin people in the town you grew up in? How desperate and pathetic of your mother. I feel so badly for you. How dare she.

Post # 42
2333 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I just re-read this and have a hard time believing they walked in and you (and they) all walked out without saying anything?

Where except in a TV drama does this happen!? 

I’m officially calling B.S. 

Post # 43
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I hope this isn’t real…..this is fucked.

Out of all the people in the world…why? I would be livid. 

Post # 44
1300 posts
Bumble bee

Smoochism :  Thats what I said. Doesn’t mean I think the mother is any less in the wrong. Imo the relationship is astoundingly ill-conceived and whatever the outcome of the romantic relationship it has likely done irreparable damage to OP’s relationship with her mother.

I dont believe any family member is owed an explanation of who I choose to sleep with or why. That information is mine to share or withhold as I see fit. That doesn’t mean I don’t have to deal with people’s reactions though. 

Post # 45
1225 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

anon0987654321 :  This is wrong on so many levels (and I’m not even including their age gap here). I’m so sorry, Bee.

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