(Closed) Vent: Family Related…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow, that sounds like a very tough situation. I don’t really know what to say, but I hope things improve

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh my… is there any way you can just live close by and help out, rather than living with them? Maybe explain to your father that if he is going to continue this behavior, that this is where it is headed. THough it sounds like he’ll just throw a tantrum. Sick or not, it’s BS. 🙁 If he’s getting crabby about you guys just talking in your room…. how is he going to react when there is baby crying at any hour? That’s not fair to the child. In the mean time, perhaps a hook look installed on the interior of the bathroom door is in order. Very quick to install. Heck, pre-drill the holes for the hook and loop and hand twist them in there when you need to, and take them out when you’re done to prevent them from disappearing via daddy tantrum.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow. I’m really sorry to hear it. 🙁  

Has your dad always been this way? A number of years ago my father was diagnosed with nonhodgkins lymphoma. He’s been in remission for 5+ years, but he had a bone marrow transplant (his own cells) and it was really, really rough. He alternated between completely lethargic and very aggressive, accused us of trying to poison/kill him, etc. I know part of it was the physical and mental toll of his illness and treatment, and I think some of (the beginning, before the radiation, etc) was the reaction to the diagnosis – it was his second cancer diagnosis.

Fortunately when he turned the corner, he went back to normal.

So I guess what I’m saying is.. maybe he could benefit from some counseling. Or maybe it’s the rapid decline and his inability to deal with it. Which, trust me, doesn’t excuse his behavior, but might make it easier to deal with.

It might also help you/your Fiance and your mom if you found a support group, maybe?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Kudos to you for moving home to help your family. Your situation sounds like a very… annoying one. If he was a control freak to begin with I can only imagine how he feels about losing control over his body’s movements. I think it’s definitely worth telling him how you feel if he’s the receptive type. Maybe tell him you like certain shows at certain times and set aside a time for you to use the computer or whatnot. That way he can have the “control” of deciding when you get to use certain rooms but really you win as well because you get uninterrupted use of the tv and computer when you want it. I hope you guys can work through all of this, and I hope your rant helped a little!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would have to move out…or I would kill him.

 

So sorry for this situation. The whole post made me cringe. Frown

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