(Closed) VENT: Feeling depressed

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

aw Im sorry your feeling so down about this. The best advice I had,was to just have a couple of days off. The world wont end if you take a long weekend,with lots of bubble baths and just taking time for you and your fiance. I suffered with a lot of insomnia about 2/3 months before my wedding,where I would go to bed and not be able to sleep because my mind was still going 100 miles and hour. I dont know how I got through that,I think it was just eventually time,and trying not to put too much pressure on myself.

Remember,this day is about you and your partners love,not pleasing other people,and ultimately no matter what you do or dont plan,you will be married very very soon!!!

Post # 5
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103 posts
Blushing bee

You poor thing… Family drama makes this process so much more challenging!

kimbo89 is right… this day is about you! Don’t give up on all the hard work that you’ve done. Take some time off, have a nice date night with FH and relax… The wedding will happen, people will come, they will see you and your FH exchange your vows, and depending on your actual plans they’ll probably be entertained and have some food… Everything before and after the vows pales in comparison though!

I’m sure it will be amazing… Just stick with it, you’ll be relieved when it’s all over and you can happily live out your married life together and only remember the happiness you felt on your wedding day… Not all the stress leading up to it!

Post # 6
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

kimbo is right about taking some time off!

I think what helps me when I stress out is to remember why I want a wedding.  I want a wedding because I want to celebrate my marriage to the most wonderful man I have ever met.  He is my best friend, my soulmate, and I want to share that day with all of my loved ones.

I want people to enjoy themselves and be happy for us.  Anything else is secondary to this. Maybe the photographer won’t show up.  Maybe we can’t afford a DJ (we can’t; the photographer is a gift or we wouldn’t have one).  Maybe my boquet will be made of paper flowers and my dress was a $99 sale special.  We might not even be able to get married in our church because of a mistake that I made when I was younger.  But at the end of the day, we will be married, and that is what matters.  Every time I start to freak out during the wedding planning (it’s happening a LOT), I make myself take a break, pour some wine, think about the things I just wrote, and then start listing the things I love about my fiance and our relationship.  I feel a lot calmer by the end of it and can keep going with the planning.

It is fantastic that you’ve rebuilt a relationship with your father, and it sounds like your fiance is really supportive, and it sounds like you’re doing a great job of keeping your head about you even when you’re upset, even if it doesn’t seem that way to you.  Your wedding will be beautiful, your guests will have a great time, and you will be married to the love of your life. 

Post # 7
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry. I know it can sometimes feel like bad things are coming from every direction…

Try to find solice in knowing that things WILL get better and that everyone has ruts. 

Thnking of you!

Post # 7
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

double post!

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