- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
This Christmas has had a little damper placed on all the happiness that we normally have. We are currently going through a custody and child maintenance battle with FI’s ex, but we never imagined that the pettiness would over-lap into Christmas.
On Dec. 15 I couriered FI’s son’s gift back to our home town (where his son lives with his ex right now) and made sure it was sent “express” so that it would arrive on time for Chritsmas morning. I kept the tracking information and tracked the package the whole way as it was a valuable gift. It arrived in our home town on the 21st and they attempted to drop it off at her house (I called to let her know it would arrive this day). She either didn’t answer the door or there was no one home, so the gift was dropped back off at the depot.
On the 22nd Fiance called her to tell her the gift would be there and that she should go pick it up before the holidays. His ex replied with, “I’ll try to make it if I have time.” By the 24th the gift still had not been picked up and Fiance called her again to remind her. This time she said she didn’t want to talk on the phone anymore because of the upcoming hearing, but that she would try to get the gift. When Fiance and I called his son on Christmas morning though he hadn’t recieved his gift from us. It’s now Tuesday the 28th and the gift is still sitting in the depot.
It makes me so angry and sad that this child’s mother would take out her frustrations and ill feeling towards us on her child. I just don’t understand and cannot fathom how anyone would deny their child extra love? What is wrong with having two healthy families in a child’s life? Fiance and I are good people, we have good stable jobs, a clean safe home, no criminal records (or speeding tickets for that matter), and I treat this boy as if he were my own. No matter what we do FI’s ex is constantly trying to make things hard on us. Every struggle and obstacle she can create for us she does.
I guess this all just points back to the reason why we’re going to court in the first place. My biggest Christmas wish would have been for us all to just put aside our differences and work through our issues outside of bickering and the courts. It looks like we’re going to have a long year ahead of us 🙁
Just thought I’d get this all out. I’d appreciate any support or advice from anyone who’s been though something similar. Thanks everyone.