(Closed) *Vent* For the 10th time-Pick up your underwear!!!! (Long! NWR)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bebealways:  Great book and very helpful.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

    

I really understand you.  My husband and I had this very serious talk about how important is to me to have his support on the household chores. Long story short, I told him I didn’t want to be the one who has to chase him all around to get him do his part of the household like if he were a child, Reasons? Number one, because he is not a child. And, number two, because he, as a grown up adult, has the right to decide when to do his part of the cleaning (nobody likes to be told what or when to do things, especially because everybody has different plans for the day). So I asked him how much of our time he considered we could invest on household chores in order to maintain a clean house. I gave him about 3 days to think about it and, after this time frame, his response was that 3 hours a week would be fine (3 hours  for each one of us). So, each one of us can decide what household to do (I don’t tell him what to do, he can decide whether doing dishes, sweep, cleaning windows or whatever he wants). We made some sort of format where we draw 7 columns; each column represents a day of the week; then we added one more column to write down our names (his name on one line and mine on the second line below his name). In this format, we mark each day on which an hour of cleaning has been completed by any of us. So he knows he has to complete at least 3 marks (which represent 3 hours) in a week. The same applies to me. So far, this has worked just fine ‘cause, as soon as he sees I’ve completed more marks than him, he rushes to do his part of the job, LOL!

 

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

OMG! So glad that you brought this up! My SO plays online games (another Bee pointed out that it cannot be paused, ughhhh!!). Now normally doing chores doesn’t bother me at all bc currently he is in Law School and is doing HW all the time, and I have a job where once I am home I can do whatever I like. I am laying the groundwork that GAMING is not ok if there are other things that need to be done, like cleaning or wedding planning. One thing I have had success with him is saying if he is about to start gaming, to remind him of his expectations and when the deadline is. That way if he doesnt get it done he cant be suprised when I am upset with him. Fight the good fight ladies! 🙂

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@DDG84:  Wow. I feel really lucky. We have an Xbox and it NEVER gets turned on. He plays Madden (NFL game) maybe twice a month. It used to be our device that played Netflix, then we got a smart TV so the xbox just collects dust…..

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@sheepandbear:  I am jealous!!!! I aspire to get to that point LOL

Post # 22
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Busy bee

Post #8 is what I do. Most guys are happy to help if you tell them what needs to be done, but expect them to figure it out on their own and just do it without being asked? Yeah, not gonna happen lol.

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