- 6 years ago
We are going to the tux shop in a couple weeks to try on tuxes/figure out the colours of the best man/groomsmen. We went a month ago to get Fiance fitted for his bro’s wedding in August so we kinda know the drill. Maid/Matron of Honor really wanted to come with us so we asked the best man if he wanted to come too. Figured it’d be cool to see Fiance and best man in 2 different colours, be able to choose better when they’re standing beside each other and then we could hang out that night and have some bevvies. Just a relaxing night.
I sent out an email confirming they all wanted to go again, got okayed on a date and time and sent out another message confirming that date and time. Best man lives an hour and a half away and Maid/Matron of Honor lives an hour the other way of us, we’re in the middle. Decided it was best to meet at our place and go from there about 10 minutes awy from our apartment. Cool. Everyone on board.
Friday we got an email from the best man saying he doesn’t have insurance on his car so can’t get a ride there but still can go. Back story: he hasn’t had insurance on his car in 6+ months, which is a $5K + fine automatically in Ontario. We have taken buses/trains/etc out that way many times to visit him and his g/f so we mentioned those options and just let him know to tell me if it wasn’t doable. Today he emails back…
“I don’t do public transit lol…thanx tho”
One part of me just says, okay no biggie, we’ll just go without him…the other part is kinda frustrated he didn’t just say so in the first place. This guy is FI’s best friend but is known to make a lot of excuses and is always saying he doesn’t have money to do anything. Which is TOTALLY okay, but we’ve talked to him in the past to just tell us straight up if there is an issue or if something is wrong so we can help or figure stuff out or if it’s a money thing. We aren’t exactly rolling in dough, so it’s a totally understandable thing. Best man called Fiance a couple weeks back to say how stoked he is to be part of our day and to just let him know if there is anything he can help with or do for us to make things easier.
Sorry for the long story and vent. I think Fiance just needs to ask what’s up and see if there is a bigger issue or if we’re making a bigger deal of it than is necessary.