Post # 1
Regular bee gone anonymous.
I just wanted to vent and scream and shout about how frustrating work can be. This is my first fulltime job, and it seems like I am always in trouble. I have two direct bosses- the lady is a sweetheart, but she can get a bit grouchy at times (menopause or just personality quirk,who knows) but my other boss is my issue.
On paper, he’s almost exactly what I am looking for- the age gap is four years, he is religious (studied theology) and he can sing (classical singing). He’s also single. And a good hugger. And he likes food. But I know he’s not for me because he smokes and I can’t hang around smoke. But it’s hard to stop noticing him even though I know it will lead to nowhere….
I know he’s a nice guy – he’s helped me out a few times already this year, and he checked on me when I looked like I was crying, and he helped me with a lot of advice through the months. I also know he’s nice because he’s doing his job. The most awkward situation I had with him was when he commented that I survived my first three months, and he offered a hug. I returned the hug rather enthusiastically…. a totally inappropriate bear hug from my side. (Deep inside I am a hugger but I haven’t shown that side to my colleagues yet) He invited me to join “us” for drinks at a nearby clubhouse, but was elusive when I asked who the “us” is.
Bees, I am not looking for advice exactly (I know I must not get involved, I know the poor guy’s just doing his job by being nice, and that I should stop looking for stuff that isn’t there,and I should not commit professional suicide) I just wanted to get my frustrations out there before I go to work tomorrow (and sit next to him like every morning….)I’m just throwing my thoughts into the deep,dark internet world.
Post # 2
First rule of work club: Don’t date your boss.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
Your post is a bit confusing. Why are you always in trouble? What are the frustrations? How is it related to your boss?
also, please don’t date your boss. Just, don’t.
Post # 4
Omg do not get this personal with a boss. Nothing good can come of it. If you must, find another job.
Post # 5
noanonymousnames : I don’t see anything to vent and scream and shout about.
If you are that frustrated that he is your boss and you have strong personal feelings about him, find another job. Trying to date the boss is professional suicide for most people.
Post # 6
Tell us more about horrible woman boss with menopause who isn’t nice to you and the hot religious male boss who maybe asked you out but you’re not sure because yuck, he smokes, but bear hug anyway — and omg why are there problems with your bosses.
Post # 7
Stop hugging your boss. Don’t go out for drinks with him. Getting involved with your boss is a horrible idea. You’re manufacturing drama at your place of work for no reason.
Nothing in your post shows anything about your career being frustrating. All I see is a girl who wants to date someone she knows she shouldn’t.
Post # 8
I’m totally confused as well. I’m the employment attorney for my corporation and apart from the marginally inappropriate hugging, I’m not seeing why you are so frustrated and “in trouble all the time.” What is going on? And please, please, please, do not get into a personal relationship with your boss. It will not only negatively affect your career and his career but the general environment in the office. People pick up on that stuff and it generally does not turn out well. If he does make inappropriate advances, please report them to your other boss and/or HR or to whomever you are most comfortable reporting.
Post # 9
Bees, I was just rambling on here to clear my head (I already saw that the whole thing was silly as I was typing it…) I’m just frustrated with life in general, and don’t particularly love my job, but can’t do much about it. I’m in trouble about other things (like almost missing deadlines when I don’t get told what I actually need to do- all the oldies already know the drill whereas I don’t and they don’t remember the newbie and then some people get impatient when I ask questions)
And no, I don’t plan on committing professional suicide by getting into anything personal with the boss.