Post # 1
arggg… we’re invited to a destination wedding in a few weeks. the bride has posted their wedding registry on facebook at least 5 times since November to make sure people know exactly what gifts they want. The one from the bride today reads:
The wedding is rapidly approaching (almost 2 weeks) and if you wonder what we would like for a gift, here it is…
Being a fellow bride this just irks me to the core. I hate to say it, but she is a very cheap friend – trys to get away with spending as little money as possible when we go out, etc.
On top of this, Fiance and I do have last names where the spelling isn’t the most common way. She’s friends with both of us on facebook and we have a number of mutual friends who we party with – so we see them every month or two – with details done over FB and email where my name is obviously in front of her. Yet, she never took the time to spell our names correctly on Save-The-Date Cards, shower invites, or wedding invites. She even sent Fiance and I separate Save-The-Date Cards when we have the same address. So so strange to me. I wish it didn’t bug me and wish I wouldn’t feel guilty if I gave her a smaller gift than I would had she not broken these ettiquette rules. I know she had the time and ability to get our names right, and it just never dawned on her.
To avoid any potential things that bug me at the wedding, we’re not going to go. Claimed we couldn’t take off work and it’s not worth a 5 hr drive to only be there 24 hours or so.
Post # 3
Ugh. I’d do the same things you’re doing.
Post # 4
oh, and the only “like” on her post today is from the groom. i yi yi, i just have to laugh it off and wish i didn’t care or could be oblivious like that sometimes.
Post # 5
wow. unbelieveable… i’d probably not go too. I normally give a cash gift, but if that happened, and I were to go, I’d probably NOT give a cash gift that time, or give less than normal… espeically if she’s otherwise really cheap and tries to nickel and dime friends.
Post # 6
she can’t even get your name right but can make darn sure everyone knows where she’s registered? I’d either give nothing, or something really, really small.
Post # 7
That does seem a little crazy – especially because I’m sure not everyone on her FB is invited to the wedding. Personally, I made the decision early-on to not mention even getting engaged on FB. It’s been nearly 18 months and I have to say that it’s probably saved me a lot of headaches.
I think you made the best decision – if you want to send a nice little gift and move on from it, that would be nice.
I doubt she’d get the hint if you even used huge font size and bold face with the correct spelling of your names. I’ve definitely gotten a few typos, but I try to correct them as they come in.
Post # 8
She sounds gross. I wouldn’t go, either.
Post # 9
Ohhh the name misspelling would irk me, and then this would send me over the edge.
NO GIFT FOR YOU!
Post # 10
I always find posting give me things on a social networks is very tacky and selfish to say the least.
It never amazes me how low some go for themselves. I had a ex friend throw herself a shower at her home AND then only invite some people to the wedding ceremony but invite tons of people to a small reception of just cake and punch then have a second reception for the ceremony small group with catered food and stuff . That is just low to me, cheap, and reeks of I don’t want to spend much but want lots of gifts so well do it this way. WOW the nerve of some people.
Post # 11
Haha. I would probably wait a day and then post something on her wall like, “Hey, Susie! Where are you guys registered? We have no idea what to get you for a gift – please give us some hints!” But I assume the joke would be lost on her. (It’s also a really snarky thing to do – oops – shame on me.) 😛
Post # 12
Didn’t even bother to check Facebook to make sure your names were spelled correctly? Wow.
Post # 13
People like that kill me. I’d be posting things in response like
“okay, we get it .. you want stuff!”
“stop spamming me with your registry info”
“nope, we’re not wondering. . .never even crossed our minds”
Post # 14
@DeathByDesign: Actually, I had this strategy backfire on me. I looked for the fiance of a friend’s name (I hadn’t met him) and got it WAY wrong. I guess he mispells it intentionally on FB so people can’t search him.
We misspelled a few others too. I felt really bad about that. ;
Post # 15
haha, thanks for the laughs y’all. I wish I had the balls to say something snarky back, but it won’t happen, I’m too passive aggresive. but now i’m tempted to send her invite to our wedding to her in her maiden name or something like that. and i can’t cut her out of my life for these obnoxious but harmless errors, they’re too good of friends with my sister and BIL and live in my area.
Post # 16
@GreenGables: If I was going to be passive-aggressive about it, I’d probably send a card with a small gift in it – cash or a gift card or something – and then sign with my name spelled incorrectly, and take a red pen to it and correct it. 🙂 I don’t recommend this approach but it’s making me giggle anyway!