(Closed) vent: gift grabby bride

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Ugh. I’d do the same things you’re doing.

Post # 5
14481 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

wow.  unbelieveable… i’d probably not go too.  I normally give a cash gift, but if that happened, and I were to go, I’d probably NOT give a cash gift that time, or give less than normal… espeically if she’s otherwise really cheap and tries to nickel and dime friends.

Post # 6
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

she can’t even get your name right but can make darn sure everyone knows where she’s registered? I’d either give nothing, or something really, really small.

Post # 7
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That does seem a little crazy – especially because I’m sure not everyone on her FB is invited to the wedding.  Personally, I made the decision early-on to not mention even getting engaged on FB.  It’s been nearly 18 months and I have to say that it’s probably saved me a lot of headaches.  

I think you made the best decision – if you want to send a nice little gift and move on from it, that would be nice.

I doubt she’d get the hint if you even used huge font size and bold face with the correct spelling of your names.  I’ve definitely gotten a few typos, but I try to correct them as they come in.

Post # 8
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

She sounds gross.  I wouldn’t go, either.

Post # 9
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ohhh the name misspelling would irk me, and then this would send me over the edge.


Post # 10
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I always find posting give me things on a social networks is very tacky and selfish to say the least.

It never amazes me how low some go for themselves.   I had a ex friend throw herself a shower at her home AND then only invite some people to the wedding ceremony but invite tons of people to a small reception of just cake and punch then have a second reception for the ceremony small group with catered food and stuff . That is just low to me, cheap, and reeks of I don’t want to spend much but want lots of gifts so well do it this way. WOW the nerve of some people.  

Post # 11
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Haha.  I would probably wait a day and then post something on her wall like, “Hey, Susie!  Where are you guys registered?  We have no idea what to get you for a gift – please give us some hints!”  But I assume the joke would be lost on her.  (It’s also a really snarky thing to do – oops – shame on me.)  😛

Post # 12
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Didn’t even bother to check Facebook to make sure your names were spelled correctly? Wow.

Post # 13
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

People like that kill me.  I’d be posting things in response like

“okay, we get it  .. you want stuff!”


“stop spamming me with your registry info”

“nope, we’re not wondering. .  .never even crossed our minds”

Post # 14
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@DeathByDesign:  Actually, I had this strategy backfire on me. I looked for the fiance of a friend’s name (I hadn’t met him) and got it WAY wrong. I guess he mispells it intentionally on FB so people can’t search him.

We misspelled a few others too. I felt really bad about that. ;


Post # 16
365 posts
Helper bee

@GreenGables:  If I was going to be passive-aggressive about it, I’d probably send a card with a small gift in it – cash or a gift card or something – and then sign with my name spelled incorrectly, and take a red pen to it and correct it. 🙂 I don’t recommend this approach but it’s making me giggle anyway!

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