(Closed) Vent. Goodbye bridal party. =(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I think it sounds like you are trying WAYYYY to hard to please everyone and keep things even. Why do your sides need to have the same amount of people? I think you should keep whomever you want and don’t have who ever you don’t want. Do what feels right. I may have missed a thread, but why is your sister’s boyfriend not invited? I’m just curious.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

Have the wedding party that you want. Tell everyone else to shush.

 

Do you want your sister in the party? Then do it. Do you have close guy friends that you want standing next to you? Go for it. Is your party uneven? Does it REALLY matter all that much as long as everyone in your party are people that you love?

In the end, the day is about you, your Fiance, and the celebration of your union. Try thinking outside the formality, and what other people want, and traditions and everything else. Throw a party, and do it your way. 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The only thing I see you having no control over is whether your Maid/Matron of Honor shows or doesn’t.  Other than that, it’s your choice to keep or eliminate people from the party.  There’s no need to keep it the same # or even the same sex on both sides.  If you are close to some guy friends, ask one (or more) of them to join.  And absolutely, no reason to take out your sister and hurt/penalize her for your other sisters actions!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, is there a reason your sister’s Boyfriend or Best Friend can’t come?  Seems like inviting him would solve a lot of your problems.

Even if you’re doing “no ring, no bring” I feel exceptions can be made for immediate family/bridal party.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Oh for cripes’ sake, it’s your wedding, who cares what other people think is unfair? It’s your bridal party, have who you want in it! If all your closest friends are guys, there’s no reason they can’t stand beside you on your big day.

Or your Fiance can have his siblings (including his sisters) on his side and you can have yours on your side.

If everyone’s this unsupportive, they’re going to gripe no matter how much you try and accommodate them. So accept the fact that they’re resigned to be miserable and just have the wedding that makes you happy!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just start ignoring people and do what you want. Yes, you will find out who your real friends are through the wedding process.  Unfortunately, that just comes with the territory.  You should have the wedding that you can look back on and love it, not the one that everyone wants for you.  I am sorry that everyone is putting so much pressure on you, that is not fair or kind.  If you are really in need of a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I have never been to Pennsylvania Cool

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just like to second all of the above mentioned details. You can have anyone you wnat in your bridal party. 

Post # 12
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You dont need even numbers at all :). I say use some of your guy friends (sorry I’m not too traditional lol) and if people are going to act stupid about it, just remind them that its YOUR DAY!

sisters Boyfriend or Best Friend needs his ass kicked and hers too if shes letting anyone control her. COuld be that women his age dont put up with his BS (my .02)

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54: You could always just drop his sisters and have four guy friends. If he’s booting your brother from his side then I don’t see why you have to accommodate his sisters on yours.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Why don’t you just drop the one sister from the wedding and keep the rest of the bridal party?  It seems far less complicated.  The way you described it, it sounded like a series of dominos falling down.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

If you want a 10 person beach wedding, have it that way, you are only going to regret it otherwise.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t get why (how?) you can just drop your brother, your sister, etc, and you’re still expected to accomodate your FI’s sisters. That doesn’t sit well. So maybe your sister decides not to show bc of her boyfriend…oh well, her loss. Doesn’t mean your other two siblings need to be booted or that the domino-effect has to destroy your wedding party.

Also…seriously tell him to get over the even sides thing. It’s not necessary, and having less hurt feelings is WAY better than symmetry.

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