- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Inspired by this post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tactful-engagement-party
Am I wrong for being upset about this?
I have a friend who got engaged in December. Last month her and her Fiance sent out a Facebook invite to EVERYONE about their engagement party ONE WEEK before the party. We couldn’t go, as it was out of town.
A few days ago the bride (who I have been friends with since HS) was AT MY HOME for ladies night, told me my Fiance and I were on the B-List for invites… and then told me that if one of our other male friends wasn’t bringing a date, I could be his date. Furthermore, she told me she still wants me to go to her shower (in Oct) and bachlorette party.
I was floored when she said this, and when she left, her Maid/Matron of Honor (the girl that will be MY MOH) walked her out and said “That was really rude and tacky”, and she responded “well, do you think she’ll still invite me to her wedding? I feel bad, but we mis-counted and need to invite more family”.
I’m still miffed (as are MANY of our other friends… but she’s have a $100k+ wedding and acting like it’s the most exclusive invite-only event of the year). It makes me MORE mad that knowing her Fiance has a big family, they chose a small venue for it’s status, not how well it works for their needs. I know, it’s her day, and she has every right to invite who she wants, but I’m really hurt. It’s like saying “you can drink with me and buy me a shower gift, but I don’t want you there on my special day:?
So, I ask 1) If we do get an invite, should we still go? Her Maid/Matron of Honor has told me to NOT go to her shower, as she doesn’t want me to feel obligated to send a gift, and 2) do I still invite her to my wedding?