(Closed) vent – i guess i’ve definitely gained weight post-wedding

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

Awww I am so sorry. People can be so oblivious sometimes. Don’t let her get you down.

Post # 4
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Omg who says that?! What a mean girl!!! I would not call her much of a “friend”. I’ve gained weight since the wedding too but if anyone said something to me about it I’d certainly tell them where to stick it. Stay away from her!

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

That is rude and obnoxious, but turn that energy into positive actions.  You should be happy no matter what weight, but maybe use her words to think about some of the unhealthy things you are doing and turn them into healthy. Whether that changes your weight or not doesnt matter, but at least you will be healthy- that is what is important.


Post # 7
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wait…… WHAT?!  Who says that to someone?!?!  That is so intolerably rude, it’s unbelievable.  I do not blame you for getting upset, I would’ve been the same way.  Brush it off though, maybe you’ve gained weight, but you can lose it.  She’s got it worse because she can’t change her personality.

Post # 8
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

… what a hag?? Who says that….. really! I’m not sure I would have handled that one with nearly as much tact as you did. Lets hope she becomes one of the ones you go months without seeing.

Post # 9
2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

omg, what a horrible thing for her to say!!

i’ve gained a little more than 5 lbs back since the wedding too, it’s harder to motivate myself to hit the gym now, especially when things get busy and stressful. i’m trying to push myself to work out more.

Post # 10
256 posts
Helper bee

id tell her where to shove it!!! i cant stand people like that, who does she think she is telling you that?!?!?!

Post # 11
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ah, well, her being filipino does shed a little light on the situation.  When I lived in Daly City, 90% of my friends were filipino and I spent a lot of time in filipino households, including being in a wedding. 

They’re blunt.  Very blunt.  They don’t consider it rude at all, either.  If you’re getting fat, they’ll straight up tell you you’re getting fat.  They don’t mean anything malicious by it, it’s just a cultural thing.  My skin got REAL thick, REAL fast.  On the flipside, they’ll also try to shove food down your throat if they think you’re too skinny.  

Still sorry that happened to you, though, that really sucks.  ;(

Post # 12
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That sucks! Like other PPs said, don’t take it to heart but if it motivates you to get back on track, then use that energy! 

Don’t most women/couples gain weight after marriage? I mean, I know that most brides-to-be start up a work-out plan for the wedding. But after the wedding, I doubt that they keep it at the same level and their body starts to return back to where they were around the time of engagement. I want to be fit for my wedding, but after that I’m sure I’ll tone down the workouts a bit. Isn’t 5lb weight gain about normal?

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