Post # 1
This is just a vent about how sometimes people really suck.
It’s been three months after the wedding, and granted, I’ve put on a couple of pounds. I know this because my pants fit tighter. Lack of exercise, the holidays, work-related stress all contribute to it. Realistically, it is probably about 5 or 6 lbs.
Well one of my friends at work saw me yesterday (I work in a really big firm and sometimes go weeks or even months without seeing certain people) and she says “wow you look so puffy!! your face is SO full…and you like wider. I almost didn’t recognize you!” I was a little shocked and didn’t know what to say, so I just replied “i guess I’m just getting fat.” And she just stared at me and proceeded to grab one of my wedding pictures off her desk and compare it to how I look now, nodding that yes, I have gained weight.
Tears sprang to my eyes but I tried to hide it. I am nowhere near fat, but it goes to show that any little bit of weight gained goes unnoticed around here. I was so self-conscious the rest of the day and it even kept me up last night.
Not trying to garner sympathy, just needed to tell someone. I didn’t want to tell Darling Husband what happened because I don’t want to bring attention to my weight.
I guess I’ll go for a run now!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore
Awww I am so sorry. People can be so oblivious sometimes. Don’t let her get you down.
Post # 4
Omg who says that?! What a mean girl!!! I would not call her much of a “friend”. I’ve gained weight since the wedding too but if anyone said something to me about it I’d certainly tell them where to stick it. Stay away from her!
Post # 5
That is rude and obnoxious, but turn that energy into positive actions. You should be happy no matter what weight, but maybe use her words to think about some of the unhealthy things you are doing and turn them into healthy. Whether that changes your weight or not doesnt matter, but at least you will be healthy- that is what is important.
Post # 6
@bakerella: Yeah, she’s an older lady (in her 50s)….I think anyone close to my age wouldn’t be so insensitive? She’s also Flipino (maybe its a culture thing?)
Post # 7
Wait…… WHAT?! Who says that to someone?!?! That is so intolerably rude, it’s unbelievable. I do not blame you for getting upset, I would’ve been the same way. Brush it off though, maybe you’ve gained weight, but you can lose it. She’s got it worse because she can’t change her personality.
Post # 8
… what a hag?? Who says that….. really! I’m not sure I would have handled that one with nearly as much tact as you did. Lets hope she becomes one of the ones you go months without seeing.
Post # 9
omg, what a horrible thing for her to say!!
i’ve gained a little more than 5 lbs back since the wedding too, it’s harder to motivate myself to hit the gym now, especially when things get busy and stressful. i’m trying to push myself to work out more.
Post # 10
id tell her where to shove it!!! i cant stand people like that, who does she think she is telling you that?!?!?!
Post # 11
Ah, well, her being filipino does shed a little light on the situation. When I lived in Daly City, 90% of my friends were filipino and I spent a lot of time in filipino households, including being in a wedding.
They’re blunt. Very blunt. They don’t consider it rude at all, either. If you’re getting fat, they’ll straight up tell you you’re getting fat. They don’t mean anything malicious by it, it’s just a cultural thing. My skin got REAL thick, REAL fast. On the flipside, they’ll also try to shove food down your throat if they think you’re too skinny.
Still sorry that happened to you, though, that really sucks. ;(
Post # 12
That sucks! Like other PPs said, don’t take it to heart but if it motivates you to get back on track, then use that energy!
Don’t most women/couples gain weight after marriage? I mean, I know that most brides-to-be start up a work-out plan for the wedding. But after the wedding, I doubt that they keep it at the same level and their body starts to return back to where they were around the time of engagement. I want to be fit for my wedding, but after that I’m sure I’ll tone down the workouts a bit. Isn’t 5lb weight gain about normal?