(Closed) VENT! I need a drink in my hands to keep from wringing his neck…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I mean… I’m not sure how to answer this.  I think you’re getting way too caught up way too early – we’re not even in 2012 yet and you’re worried about being married by Feb of 2014?  Plenty of people have engagements that are 6 months or shorter – you dont need forever to plan, and sometimes it actually makes it harder with more time to think.


I’d leave the subject alone.  He knows your deadline and will either agree with it or not – that’s HIS choice.  YOUR choice is to stick it out and see what happens until then or leave if it doesn’t. 

Also don’t give him too hard of a time.  Holidays are brutal for retail and getting time off for Thanksgiving is really not something that usually happens.  I own my own shop and I’m pulling 12-15 hour days until after NYE. 

So… stop pre-planning, give dude a break, don’t worry about blessings and intentions… just let things happen and deal with them then.

Post # 5
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I understand it can be immensely frustrating to get mixed signals, but I agree with the PP.

This doesn’t sound like a guy who’s giving you the run around, it just sounds like he wants the freedom and space to decide how to go about it himself.

I’d suggest letting go of it and putting your energy into other areas and your hobbies etc. Wedding planning can be emotional and a bit of a roller coaster at times, you don’t want to be drained by the time you get to that stage! 🙂

Post # 6
1365 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t understand what you’re mad about….. Sorry.

Post # 8
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You have to relax. You’re getting way too upset about something that will probably happen…so just let it happen. The more you nag him about it, the less likely he will be to propose. Or just propose to you so you’re happy, but would you really want that if he wasn’t ready? Let him decide when he is ready. Let him decide when he wants to talk to your parents. He definitly knows what you want, now let him really think about it. And I worked at JCpenney for 4 years part-time and the Holidays are so stressful so i can only imagine what it must be like working in retail full-time this time of year so give the guy some slack.

Post # 10
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You weren’t wasting anyone’s time. Don’t apologize. You were venting and it happens! It’s very frustrating to be in the waiting phase. I’ll agree with the PPs to just relax! Everything will work out. Glad to hear it worked out! 🙂

Post # 11
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m happy it worked out too.  Venting always seems to make me feel better so don’t apologize for your post.  You had to get it out! 

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