- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Sorry about the long post in advance
So my SO and I just had the worst ‘text fight’…
Background: We’ve been looking at rings together and jsut yesterday, when we went to look at a setting the jeweler had ordered in, he wanted to check out wedding bands for me. He’s actually been encouraging me to do ‘pre-planning’ so when we do get engaged, we have a game plan. He’s already called up his best friend and asked him to be his best man and we’re thinking April 2013.
My dad is going to be overseas for the entire year of 2012. Back in August, my parents had expressed a desire to have a chat just with SO before Dad is deployed. He called them and they said Thanksgiving would be fine with them since we don’t see my folks that often. We’re keeping our fingers crossed that the big box store SO works for will give him the days off.
When the ‘chat’ comes up, SO keeps giving me mixed signals as to whether it’s just going to be him telling my dad his intentions or actually asking for their blessing. One day it’s both and others its just intentions and the blessings chat will be AFTER my dad comes home. Which leaves me very frustrated and wondering why the heck we’re even looking at rings.
SO also has a tendency to be all talk and no action until pushed…which drives me insane.
And the Story: Big box store apparently has a policy that no vacation is granted for any employee from Nov 2 to Jan 1 (gotta love ‘family-friendly establishments’ ). SO has been talking to his managers and pleading his case and the best they can do is either a 9a-6p or a 5a-2p shift on Black Friday and give him Thanksgiving Day off. My parents are two-and-a-half hours away and he’s scheduled to work Wednesday til 9. So it looks like we’re going to have to drive there in the morning and he’ll have to drive back that night (my mom already said she’d drive me home since I have other family obligations with them).
So I told him to do whatever he wanted since they probably aren’t going to change much and he hadn’t been sounding too gung-ho about talking about a proposal anyway (okay, I’ll admit I pushed that one on him but the thought of him waiting until next year had me pulling my hair out)
He said his intentions were still the same but he didn’t a foot in his ass to do what he needs to do.
I argue that I don’t want to wait around forever waiting for him to decide to propose and that I was serious about wanting to get married before I turn 30 (in Feb 2014) (he had kinda brushed me off the first time I said that)
A few more words were exchanged and then his lunch break was over and I was wishing my work sold alcohol in the vending machines.
So bees…am I being insane? I keep thinking maybe I should just stop doing any pre-planning because it’s just hurtful to be thinking about this knowing he doesn’t have any game plan adn is sending mixed signals like crazy. Heck, I was even wondering if being single for the rest of my life would be all that bad.