Post # 1
Im just frustrated and feeling unloved. Im dating a coworker who I dont really work with. He works in a different department and building than I do. We rarely see eachother at work but he seriously has no idea what I do at work or what my title is! I just feel like he never listens or has listened to me talk about my day that he couldnt even get close yet I know what his current project is!! My job and title hasnt changed since I got hired and we started dating. Im just frustrated that he doesnt even know something like this and we work at the same company. I know Im leaving for work in europe for next year and really just thinking that its time to walk away from the relationship. I have had thw worst luck with relationships lately from this and then before catching my ex-fi with someone else on the couch. I think its just time to be single and take some chances but I just cant shake the feeling that I envite people like this into my life.
Post # 2
It sounds like you’ve recognized the issues in this relationship very clearly and it looks like there really isn’t much of a future there. You deserve to be with someone who not only listens to you, but values you.
Post # 3
Just based on what you’ve written, he doesn’t sound like he is investing the same amount of himself into this relationship that you are. A relationship is a partnership, and you should be a team putting in an equal amount of effort into it.
Being single for over a year and just focussing on myself (sounds sooooo cheesy when you write it) was the BEST thing I ever did for myself, and I ended up totally by chance meeting my current SO and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. They say you find your perfect man when you stop looking, or whatever the saying is. If you are trying too hard to find your forever, you’ll force it onto every man you’re with. (does that make sense?)
Post # 4
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with your intuition. You’ve also made a self-discovery that is worthy of further exploration. It has been said that until we learn from our mistakes, we do tend to repeat them. I would take a break from your relationship (any relationship), and give more thought to why it is that you may be attracting certain personalities into your life. Being aware is the first step towards finding the answer, as well as the solution.