Post # 1
My wedding was this past weekend and it was amazing. I wouldn’t change a thing. Everything was even better than I imagined! None of the things I was worried would happen happened, everyone had tons of fun. So this vent doesn’t really detract from how much I loved our wedding, I just wanted to vent about it.
We did a first look to get some nerves out, and it turns out one of my somewhat distant relatives followed me outside, and midway through the first look plunks herself down next to the photographer and starts snapping photos! I just ignored her and she eventually left without getting in the way.
Later that night I went on instagram and she had posted photos of our first look all over facebook and instagram. I know she knows exactly what it is because she captioned it “first look!” I’m not even sure why I’m so annoyed but it’s floating around facebook and I really wish it wasn’t. It was just a really emotional personal moment and it feels intrusive and I wish she had asked. Obviously I won’t do or say anything, I’m just kind of disappointed. Am I crazy for being upset?
Post # 2
First, I’m glad your wedding went so well! 🙂 I probably would have said something to her, but we’re past that point. Why not ask her to take it down?
ETA: I would be annoyed and sad, too.
Post # 3
Wow I would be so mad too. I feel like you should have been the one to share those photos,especially intimate and private ones…ones not even the guest saw nevermind social media!! Wow I would be so mad. Guest should respect not positing photos and maybe just selfies without permission first.
sorry this happened. I guess it’s too late for her to kindly take them off and explain yourself?
Post # 4
I would ask her to take down the pics. It was rude and/or thoughtless of her to assume you would be ok with her posting them. No one should ever post pics of other people without their consent.
Post # 5
I would ask her to take them down, she should not have been there. Just tell her that was supposed to be a private moment between you and him (hint hint- not her!) and you don’t want it shared.
Post # 6
Wow… i can’t even believe someone would do that. This is cringeworthy. I’m glad you were able to let it go in the moment however I totally understand why you are upset. That is such a personal moment for someone to just invite themselves to.
Post # 7
Thanks for the support, I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks this is totally inappropriate. I’m not sure I can really ask her to take it down since it’s already been up for over a day (I was out of town and didn’t see it before), or if it would even matter at this point.
Post # 8
I would still ask her to take it down even though it’s been a day. If you want it to be more private, you should be able to keep it that way.
whos relation is she? There must be someone in the family who can tell her to take it down if you’re not comfortable with it.
Or just send her the link to this thread
Post # 9
I kind of think you should have made your first look more private.
Why was it in a place she could wander into and why didn’t you tell her to go away or get the photog to?…
I guess what is done is done so either move on or tell her to delete it.
Post # 10
Innerdonught : We were somewhere private, she was actually inside the venue and followed us outside to sneak some photos, but waited until everything was already rolling to sneak in. It would have been hard to tell her to leave without disrupting everything.
Post # 11
nearlyscottish : So noone noticed her following you until she was suddenly right next to the photog snapping away?
Anyway, as I said it’s already over so either let it go or tell her to take it down.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s ever too late to clarify boundaries with someone. I’d reach out and tell her she needs to take the pictures down and to contact me in the future before posting my personal business on social media.
Post # 13
Oh god I’m so sorry this happened to you! I’d feel pretty violated.
Now I’m worried about this happening at my wedding too! It’s funny the things you don’t realize you need to ask people not to do before they go ahead and do them..
Post # 14
I would hate this. At the very least you can untag yourself but I suppose that doesn’t help much if you have lots of mutual friends on FB.
I would message her and politely ask if she could remove them. Just tell her those were meant to be personal. But I feel that way about most photos posted without permission.
Post # 15
This really, really annoys me. You absolutely need to bring this up with her and ask for them to be taken down.
How very rude and inconsiderate. Those are private moments.