Vent, intrusive relative

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

First, I’m glad your wedding went so well! 🙂 I probably would have said something to her, but we’re past that point. Why not ask her to take it down?

ETA: I would be annoyed and sad, too.

Post # 3
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Wow I would be so mad too. I feel like you should have been the one to share those photos,especially intimate and private ones…ones not even the guest saw nevermind social media!! Wow I would be so mad. Guest should respect not positing photos and maybe just selfies without permission first.

sorry this happened. I guess it’s too late for her to kindly take them off and explain yourself?

Post # 4
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47254 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would ask her to take down the pics. It was rude and/or thoughtless of her to assume you would be ok with her posting them. No one should ever post pics of other people without their consent.

Post # 5
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1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would ask her to take them down, she should not have been there. Just tell her that was supposed to be a private moment between you and him (hint hint- not her!) and you don’t want it shared.

Post # 6
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734 posts
Busy bee

Wow… i can’t even believe someone would do that. This is cringeworthy. I’m glad you were able to let it go in the moment however I totally understand why you are upset. That is such a personal moment for someone to just invite themselves to. 

Post # 8
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would still ask her to take it down even though it’s been a day. If you want it to be more private, you should be able to keep it that way.

whos relation is she? There must be someone in the family who can tell her to take it down if you’re not comfortable with it. 

Or just send her the link to this thread 

Post # 9
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2328 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I kind of think you should have made your first look more private.

Why was it in a place she could wander into and why didn’t you tell her to go away or get the photog to?…

I guess what is done is done so either move on or tell her to delete it.

Post # 11
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2328 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

nearlyscottish :  So noone noticed her following you until she was suddenly right next to the photog snapping away?

Anyway, as I said it’s already over so either let it go or tell her to take it down.

Post # 12
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6462 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I don’t think it’s ever too late to clarify boundaries with someone. I’d reach out and tell her she needs to take the pictures down and to contact me in the future before posting my personal business on social media.

Post # 13
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1128 posts
Bumble bee

Oh god I’m so sorry this happened to you!  I’d feel pretty violated.

Now I’m worried about this happening at my wedding too!  It’s funny the things you don’t realize you need to ask people not to do before they go ahead and do them..

Post # 14
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12472 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I would hate this. At the very least you can untag yourself but I suppose that doesn’t help much if you have lots of mutual friends on FB. 

I would message her and politely ask if she could remove them. Just tell her those were meant to be personal. But I feel that way about most photos posted without permission. 

Post # 15
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

This really, really annoys me. You absolutely need to bring this up with her and ask for them to be taken down.

How very rude and inconsiderate.  Those are private moments. 

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