Vent, intrusive relative

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
Member
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Of course you can still ask her to take it down. I think it is worth it. You can share your pictures if and when YOU want to. People have asked me to take down pictures before (not to do with drama or anything) and it’s so easy. 

Post # 18
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9216 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would have asked her to leave the first look, and stopped her from taking any pictures.  that was not right.

but now, ask her to take the pictures down.  so that was your day and for you to share.

Post # 19
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828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Honestly, I really don’t think she did anything “wrong.” Sure it was uncouth of her to sneak into the photographer’s business, but I don’t really get how anyone could argue that it was a private moment between newlyweds when there’s a photographer there… She probably thought it was a normal wedding photo op. I’m all for private intimate moments between newlyweds on the wedding day, but I don’t think the average wedding guest would have seen this first look as something intimate they shouldn’t be witness to. 

Seriously, pitchforks down everyone. She wasn’t picking locks and standing on chairs to stick her camera over the transept and get a shot; she was walking around with her camera and no one told her to stop. A simple “Hey ma’am, I’ve got it covered, you can head back to the party” from the photographer would have been appropriate in the moment.  Just send her a message and let her know that it was intended to be an intimate moment so you’d appreciate that she take it down. 

Post # 20
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would of asked her to take them down right when I saw them up. At my wedding this past friday my Darling Husband and I did a first look. After that we did family photos and my mom posted a pic on facebook of my sister and I and I saw it on the way to my ceremony with my Darling Husband. I called my mom yelling at her to take it down because I havent walked down the aisle yet and didnt want any photos of me in my dress until then on social media. Some people just dont get it! lol

Post # 22
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1128 posts
Bumble bee

abwcmo :  I totally disagree.  A first look is a very intimate moment & I don’t think having a photographer there changes things.  There is a photographer present for budoir photos as well- doesn’t make them fair game for anybody and everybody. 

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