(Closed) VENT! Issue with a friend…(REALLY long, sorry…)

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I really don’t think she would cause a scene and she probably answered you like that because she was embarrassed that you found out. If you are such good friends with her, I really wouldn’t let this bother you.

Post # 4
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

For the bridesmaid issue, I think she did the right thing by not coming to you with the fact that it bothered her. The friend who told you she was upset had NO right to tell you that. You’re upset she’s “lying,” but perhaps she’s a good enough friend to realize that your wedding day is not about her and her own wants/desires. Maybe she didn’t want you to feel guilty.

Honestly, I would be livid if I was getting married and someone complained because they weren’t included in the way they wanted to be included. So, I would let that go. I would also suggest that maybe you talk to the friend who told you and ask that, in the future, she not spread gossip that could potentially make your wedding planning more stressful.

The other issues sound mildly annoying, but over all you’ve said this is a good friend, so I’m not sure what the big deal is. If you really care about her, let some of the small things go and, in the future, if she does something (like not listen to your advice) talk to her in that moment about it.

FWIW, she doesn’t sound like a bad friend to me.

Post # 5
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

To me, it kinda sounds like she’s jealous…either because she’s not getting to be a bridesmaid or because your OTHER friend is getting married or because you were offered an internship. Basically because there are good things going on in OTHER people’s lives! The comment she made to you about phone-a-friend (rude!!!!) and then being too “sick” to go to your friend’s bridal shower but showing up later to hang out is just a little too obvious. She can’t be happy for anyone else because she’s too immature.

Too bad for her.

I wouldn’t waste your time worrying about it.. she sounds like a jerk. I have a friend who was also a bridesmaid (my mistake) who was obviously super jealous and really wasn’t too nice to me during my whole wedding ordeal. I really don’t care to contact her anymore. I mean, if she contacts me ok, but if not whatever.

I know I sound like a meanie, but I hate fake friends 🙁


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