(Closed) Vent: Its not your baby!!

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

LOL you are not. I’m not preggers, but a friend of mine says the same thing, her Mother-In-Law considers the baby hers and “thanks” them for having it. LOL!  They now just roll their eyes and ignore her. ha.

Post # 4
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2561 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am not pregnant – but I do think that I would find that annoying.

Regarding referring to the baby as “theirs/ours” – unfortunately, I think they say it with the best of intentions (because they love your baby), so there is not too much you can do to correct it without sounding a little hormonal/mean.

As far as being touched/photographed. I think you can kindly say that you aren’t up to having your picture taken/being touched, and as long as you say it nicely, that they should respect that.

Post # 5
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ll probably say, “Nope. MY baby. You say, ‘Grandbaby.'” 🙂 And I agree with Ms Mini about the touching and photographing.

Post # 6
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Welcome to pregnancy.

Post # 8
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wouldn’t be upset if someone touched me or took my picture. I think it’s sweet and you should maybe even enjoy it while you’re pregnant. However, I might get a little upset if someone said “my baby” but I have never heard anyone say that! It’s crazy, how could anyone ever say that without thinking they sound pyscho.

Post # 9
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh, wow. I can’t believe she did that! I would’ve snapped her face off if she lifted up my shirt. I don’t like being touched unless we are very close… Basically intimate. So unless you’re my husband, hands off. Good job keeping your cool!!

Post # 11
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

oh wow I can’t believe she did that, I would have been very upset with her.  I also hear you about the whole it’s my baby thing, my Mother-In-Law has and still says this about my daughter who is 4, as a matter of fact she just said it the other day and it’s very uncomfortable and it’s like um no that’s my baby who came out of my whoowhoo lol

Post # 12
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1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

This is one of the things I am MOST worried about

My Sister-in-Law is over the top opinionated. When I was getting married, it really created a rift. It’s not her “opinion” she says it as if “I know best…this is how it is” She gives her opinions as if they are fact and she can really border on rude sometimes.

I dread when the time comes that I tell her because I KNOW she will make me nuts. 

I guess you have to learn to have some good comebacks. Not sure what…and not something bitchy…but I think a little sarcasm can be warranted 🙂

Post # 13
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5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@LpCutiPie:

She LIFTED YOUR SHIRT UP?!  Homegirl is lucky she still has an arm.

Frankly, it really angers me when people laugh off requests not to touch someone. That just seems like the height of arrogance and disrespect to me. 

I’m not pregnant, but I’ve always hoped that if/when I am, and a stranger puts their hand on my belly, that I’ll have the guts to immediately put my hand on theirs.  Being pregnant does not make you public property.

Post # 15
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You should tell them that every time they refer to it as “their” baby, they have to make a sizable donation to the college fund/be on diaper/body fluid duty for a whole day.

🙂

Post # 16
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I feel you. I’m pretty sure my mom thinks our baby is going to live at her house. She already bought a rocking chair from BabysRUs, she has toys ready, she’s planning on getting some sort of crib, etc. And my grandma has offered us her cleaning lady. Great, I’ll take her…. but then my grandma keeps saying how this lady is so excited to take care of our baby! “She’s great at giving baths, she knows how to change diapers, etc.” Ok, that’s great, she can give her own baby a bath and I’ll take care of my own.

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