(Closed) Vent… Kids REALLY need to be taught how to interact with other dogs!

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 47
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Busy bee

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@MrsSawyer:  +1

Ignorant parents are the worst! And never seem to think its their job to educate kids about animals! 

I have  2 dogs one of which does not like kids or loud people or anyone really. She’s very much ahomebody and so if we are on walks, we do not let people talk to her. Luckily, the other is friendly as and loves everyone so we are able to teach them by saying ‘you can pat this one, but the other one doesn’t like it” and so even if they’ve never met a dog before they know that some like people and some don’t. Thing is, they should already know this!

Unfortunately, my SO was bitten by a dog when he was a kid and has never had dogs so I’m almost teaching him as I would a child that dogs have different personalities and reactions to people. I’m so glad that I was brought up with animals. my parents always taught me to ask before touching and how to approach animals!

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Anecdotally – I live in a neighborhood with TONS of dogs, so most of the kids are a.) fairly comfortable with them and b.) behave appropriately.  I actually had three little kids (none older than 5 or 6) ask nicely if they could pet my dog while on a walk the other night, without any prompting from their parents!  (Although one little girl’s mom had to remind her to leave her doll stroller behind as it was freaking out my dog such that he wouldn’t sit still for petting, oops).  That said, while walking in a different neighborhood once, out of nowhere I had a toddler come sprinting towards my dog and try to grab his tail – parents nowehere to be seen.  I feel like it’s not that hard to teach your kid(s) to always ask first, but maybe if you live in an area without many dogs, it’s just not something that springs to mind?

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s terrible! I was always taught as a child to never approach a dog without asking the owners permission and only once given permission let the dog sniff me before touching them. I still approached with caution too.

I think there are a lot of things parents forget to teach their children today, another lesson his mom missed; manners! 

My fiance and I have a child and I totally plan on teaching her what I was taught about other people’s animals, (and we are big on manners too lol.)

His mother should not be mad at you. I would have probably done the exact same thing you did in that situation. If I were you I’d go over and explain to her your concern for both your dogs and his safety. As you said, if he continues he’s bound to get bit. 

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

When I did puppy mill rescue many of the dogs we saved were very head shy and connected with their foster and then it was a process for them to connect with their adopter. I recall going to adoption events and those prone to snap in fear were held by their fosters. One little one did NOT like people in her face she was TERRIFIED and some woman came literally RUNNING up SQUEALING and GRABBED at the dog. The foster asked her to please not, she’s scared and prone to bite. The woman said “she wouldn’t bite ME she KNOWS i’d never hurt HER!” and proceeded to grab the dog’s face and try to kiss it on the mouth/nose!  The foster had to quickly put her in the crate because the darn woman wouldn’t let up!

 

People are IDIOTS!  I wouldn’t even want a stranger doing that to MY social sweet pup..they are ANIMALS you just never know. Not to mention how would she like if I ran up to HER and grabbed her and kissed her nose?? Seriousl lady? Animals have personal space issues too!

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@CindyRelly:  Haha, ohhhh the adoption event crazies…I had one lady come up and grab the two front paws of an adoptable dog (he was laying down) and try to, like, stare deeply into his eyes…luckily this dog was just sort of like “WTF” but seriously, paw-grabbing and staring are two big no-nos with dogs you don’t know!

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have two rescues who aren’t friendly with strangers and especially not with kids who don’t know dog ettiquette. They’re both pretty fearful and have growled at kids, so I just tell people they’re not friendly (even though they are absolute love bugs at home and with everyone they actually know). It’s to protect them and myself honestly — I don’t think they would bite, but if they growl or snap, I don’t want to deal with it. 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@loveandapitbull:  Ugh I hate that. Our older dog, we got from a shelter. A thuggish man was there looking at him (he’s an am bull mix) and we heard him say to someone on staff “I looked into his eyes and he broke the stare and that’s good he’ll listen to me. No aggression there.”

Well we ended up adopting him before the guy.. and this dog did a 180 when we got home. He had an ATTITUDE. Protective and fearful aggression. He has come a long way but if that guy had gotten him there would have been BIG issues.

 

I can’t believe that woman grabbed that poor dog’s paws. Um. People. They’re RESCUES they likely haven’t had the best of starts in life!

 

 

They make harnesses/collars/leashes now that are red, yellow, green… and they say “not good with other dogs”  or “friendly, pet me” or “Approach slowly”.. they’re great.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@krayzay87:  ya! I know. And her dog is also 4 lbs and the vet didn’t even say anything to her, until the very end. Like oh by the way we filed a report against your dog and he can’t go outside for a month and if he bites is again then he will be put down…

Post # 57
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Busy Beekeeper

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@kris325:  not sure if this has been said yet – but the shephard growling is actually a good thing.  I have a rescue dog with anxiety issues and I’ve since learned that when dogs growl it is a warning mechanism that they are uncomfortable.  I didn’t know you weren’t supposed to correct the behavior but use it to find out what’s making them uncomfortable.  

Post # 58
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Bee Keeper

Is it just me who’d like to put a collar on the kid and then yank it so hard it chokes?.. No? Sorry.. 

 

Seriously though, the mother is a twat, and her brat of a child needs a good yelling at. 

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee

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@barbie86:  +100000000000

Post # 60
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@kris325:  I just have to tell you that if your dog is aggitated and barking or stressed the absolute worse thing that you can do is pet and soothe him. Dogs interpret this very differently then people do. The way the dogs views this is that you are giving him praise for his CURRENT BEHAVIOR. Therefore you are reinforcing the unwanted behaviors. It would be ebst just to carry on and not react to this child then to soothe it when it displays undesireable behavior. As humans we think that this is helpful as it would make us feel better, but dogs aren’t people and dom’t have the same capacity for feelings that we do. Also getting worked up at that kid infront of your pup can escalate your dog. The best thing to do in that situation is to remain calm and keep on walking. I have 4 rescue dogs and it took some learning for me to realize that sometimes when I thought that I was comforting my pups I was actually exacerbating the problems.

To note about the kids, I WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree. Those parent don’t realize that they are putting their kids at risk by not teching them some basic boundaries and respect. All too often the dogs would pay the price if there ever was a negative encounter even if they were properly restrained and managed.

Post # 61
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Bumble bee

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@kris325:   Did you ever speak to the kid’s mother? What did she say?

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