- 6 years ago
Ugh, I just have to get this off my chest. One of the groomsman in our wedding is incredibly lazy. About everything in general, which I knew before, but has started to annoy me big time now that the wedding is getting close.
He is not a big believer in marriage even though he has a girlfriend. He’s just not the type to settle down into something committed and permanent that he thinks would tie him down. I don’t know if this has something to do with his attitude about our wedding, but I am guessing yes.
It annoys me a lot because he has not once offered to help with anything, and rarely ever even asks about the wedding. I get that no one cares as much about your wedding as you do, but it would be nice if he asked about it…ever!
We weren’t doing plus ones unless people were living together/married, etc. However, he asked to bring his girlfriend that he had just started dating and we agreed because we have met her a few times, she’s a nice person, and he’s a groomsman so we figured we could let it slide.
Now he won’t turn in his RSVP as he is not sure yet if she is coming. I don’t get this as he is the one who begged to have her invited in the first place. Also, she has strict dietary concerns so I need that RSVP in order to remember to get her a special meal with the venue. He keeps saying he doesn’t think he needs to RSVP because we should know he’s coming. He’s also moving a month before the wedding to another country and hasn’t yet booked his plane ticket back here for the wedding, which highly concerns me.
He’s done nothing but complain about the price of things, state how he doesn’t believe in marriage, shrug his shoulders and act like I’m making a big deal when I ask him about something related to the wedding. I got the guys to try on their suits to make sure they fit properly and his suit pants were wrinkled up as if they’d been smooshed up into a ball for weeks and when I said they needed to be pressed at the cleaners because that’s how bad they were he was basically like “Meh.” until my fiance told him it absolutely has to be done. He will not listen to anything coming from me, only my fiance.
Gah, this is pretty much a pointless post but I just had to get this off my chest. I don’t understand why people agree to be in weddings if they have zero enthusiasm for them and just want to make trouble. Anyone else have lazy groomsmen?