- 2 years ago
- Wedding: July 2018
I’m sorry your dress is ruined. I was in love with my dress and I’m hoping to get it cleaned and preserved so I totally understand how devastated you are right now. Do you think there is any way it can modified in the future to replace the bleached skirt? Maybe it’s not a complete loss. Also, depending on what you plan to do with it in the future (christening gown maybe?) the damage may not be a big deal!
Anyway, your mom was only doing her best. She didn’t mean any harm and $hit happens. I’m glad you’re not taking our your sadness on her. Hopefully you have some great photos of the dress from your wedding and some amazing memories. If this is the worst thing that happened… count yourself blessed! As you build your life together with your new husband this will just be a blip…
I’m sorry it happened to you but this is what you get when you let someone else do your work. She didn’t mean any harm and is probably devastated right now, there’s no point in making her feel even worse.
I think giving her some time before talking to her about it will be good. I’m sure she feels awful. This will give you some time to feel better too.
I should have done it myself is kind of irrelevant since I didn’t want to do it myself and nor did I want her to do it.
I haven’t left my mom stuck with anything, it was easier to get it dry cleaned in the country my wedding was in due to the shape of my dress and the hanger loops had to be cut on the morning of my wedding so it was difficult to fly with it if it couldn’t hang in a garment bag. The only reason I didn’t drop it off myself is my wedding was on a holiday weekend and it wasn’t open, I didn’t demand she do anything, my mom and I have an incredibly close relationship and we both were happy for her to drop it off.
If has been in the dry cleaners for weeks as this is the business time for wedding dress specialist dry cleaners plus there is 2 weeks of public holidays where everything basically shuts down so the turn around is incredible slow. The dry cleaners cleaned my dress 3 separate times super gently rather than the regular way due to the delicate fabric which again added to their turn around time.
I didn’t tell her I wanted it cleaned, if you read my post I specifically said I didn’t want to do anything further that had any risk factors, hence turning down the dry cleaners offer to do a special treatment at no cost.
Your comment couldn’t be less helpful.
I didnt “let her do my work” I don’t see how collecting something from the cleaners equates to asking her to DIY it.
I haven’t done anything to make her feel worse, I have specifically said I’m not even telling her I’m sad about it because I obviously don’t want her to feel bad but I’m allowed to rant on the internet when one of the most special things gets ruined.
I am so sorry, I would be really upset too. She should have waited for you to confirm if that was ok.
It sucks that it got damaged. Full sympathy for that. Especially since you didn’t do it yourself.
But look at it this way… it was already damaged with stains that wouldn’t come out. She might have made it worse but it was never going to be perfect again.
If you keep it and don’t convert it to a christening or angel gown, just think of it like the dress is telling you it’s story. It was worn and marked by your wedding. Then it was marked again by your mothers love/attempt to help. It tells a story from this time in your life.
I mean TBH, that’s how many of your comments come across on the Bee. But I digress…
It sounds like an honest mistake, and truthfully it could potentially be salvaged. With my first wedding dress, the hemline was destroyed and torn– I took it to a seamstress and she hemmed part of it and replaced part of the line that had been torn. It didn’t 100% look like the original, but it looked great and from there I was able to bag it up and preserve it… so all hope isn’t lost yet.
I think that’s the problem/why I was upset to find out. If I had went with the risky dry cleaner option or asked her/accepted an offer for her to give it a go then I would have at least prepared myself for the negative outcome. I was saying no to both those things because I didn’t want the risk.
The annoying thing was it wasn’t really satined, at least in an obvious way, I think the cleaner just wanted it to be perfect and do a good job hence redoing it. It was only the bottom cm of the internal hem, before the cleaners it basically basically looked new from the outside whereas now it is bleached on the bottom 2/3rds.
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