(Closed) VENT Mom ruined my wedding dress!

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I’m sorry your dress is ruined. I was in love with my dress and I’m hoping to get it cleaned and preserved so I totally understand how devastated you are right now. Do you think there is any way it can modified in the future to replace the bleached skirt? Maybe it’s not a complete loss. Also, depending on what you plan to do with it in the future (christening gown maybe?) the damage may not be a big deal!

Anyway, your mom was only doing her best. She didn’t mean any harm and $hit happens. I’m glad you’re not taking our your sadness on her. Hopefully you have some great photos of the dress from your wedding and some amazing memories. If this is the worst thing that happened… count yourself blessed! As you build your life together with your new husband this will just be a blip…

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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zzar45 :  your wedding was 3 months ago and you’ve left your mom stuck with your dress this whole time? Then told her you wanted it cleaned so she tried to help you and it didn’t work out? Maybe she jumped the gun but if you wanted to do it yourself you should have taken your dress home with you. How much of the bottom is bleached? Have it hemmed or dyed and turn it into a dress you can wear again. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I’m sorry it happened to you but this is what you get when you let someone else do your work. She didn’t mean any harm and is probably devastated right now, there’s no point in making her feel even worse. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think giving her some time before talking to her about it will be good. I’m sure she feels awful. This will give you some time to feel better too.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

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zzar45 :  I’m sorry but I do think there is some truth to what LilliV said. Whenever we leave something with someone for them to take care of we lose a bit of the control.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I am so sorry, I would be really upset too. She should have waited for you to confirm if that was ok. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

It sucks that it got damaged. Full sympathy for that. Especially since you didn’t do it yourself.

But look at it this way… it was already damaged with stains that wouldn’t come out. She might have made it worse but it was never going to be perfect again. 

If you keep it and don’t convert it to a christening or angel gown, just think of it like the dress is telling you it’s story. It was worn and marked by your wedding. Then it was marked again by your mothers love/attempt to help. It tells a story from this time in your life. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

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zzar45 :  Your comment couldn’t be less helpful. 

I mean TBH, that’s how many of your comments come across on the Bee. But I digress…

It sounds like an honest mistake, and truthfully it could potentially be salvaged. With my first wedding dress, the hemline was destroyed and torn– I took it to a seamstress and she hemmed part of it and replaced part of the line that had been torn. It didn’t 100% look like the original, but it looked great and from there I was able to bag it up and preserve it… so all hope isn’t lost yet.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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zzar45 :  I’m sorry your dress got damaged, but at the end of the day your left it in someone else’s care and that comes with risk. It may have been easier for you to leave it with your mom if she was willing to take that task on, but that was still a choice you made. I was actually also trying to be helpful but you didn’t answer my question – how far up the bottom is damaged? Would it work well as a shorter cocktail style dress?  Is the material one that would take well to dye? Or both? There are options to try and salvage the dress. 

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