(Closed) VENT Mom ruined my wedding dress!

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 46
Member
267 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry this happened. Such a bummer. 

I second the suggestion to donate your dress to an “angel gowns organization for lost babies. That’s what I did with mine, and it feels fantastic to know that it went to such a wonderful cause. Our wedding days are  so filled with love, and there’s something comforting about knowing that some of that love is now surrounding these little babies. My dress is literally wrapping some beloved babies in even more love, instead of it simply sitting in my closet. 

Post # 47
Member
342 posts
Helper bee

My dress sat n a closet for 10 years and then I came across someone whose daughter couldn’t afford a new dress and donated it to the family. Hold on to it for now, and then, since it’s not in the best shape, find a charitable way to let it go. It is just dead weight for brides post marriage but that’s how I feel after hauling mine across a continent and the three times we moved!

Also some of the comments here are directed at how you come across and not your problem per se. If you came on this thread you’d tell OP to get over it, it’s just a dress or a similar abrasive, blunt comment. That too, to women with real marital or relationship problems, the irony that you need to vent on a dress. 

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Post # 48
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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RayofLight :  ” If you came on this thread you’d tell OP to get over it, it’s just a dress or a similar abrasive, blunt comment.”

Exactly. And now people are expected to come here and boohoo and pat her on the back. You reap what you sew. 

Post # 50
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875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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zzar45 :  Oh, you didn’t? Let’s analyze that for a second. So you didn’t want any kind of compassionate responses from people. What did you want, then? Did you expect that this was like a journal, such that you could simply write your feelings and no one would say anything at all? No, of course you didn’t. Were you looking for practical advice about the situation? Possibly. And you received it — but you ALSO made mention that you were getting more flack than the poster who killed a dog, which was strange from your perspective. That suggests that you think you should NOT be getting so much flack (certainly not more than she received), which also suggests that you came here not expecting to get so much flack. After all, if you knew you would, then you probably wouldn’t have posted in the first place. So a fair number of posters pointed out — and received a fair number of “Helpful” votes when they did — that you’re getting flack because of your generally poor behavior on this site over the years. And here you are being defensive about it instead of behaving, for the first time, with a modicum of dignity and admitting that you are often one of the meanest, rudest, uncaring posters here. And then, in your silly defense, you keep falling back on the “it was just a vent post.” Right, a “vent” post for which you wanted no flack but, as any normal person would, some compassion. Well, you got some nice posters and some snarky posters — snarky, of course, as a direct result of your behavior in the three years I have been on this site. Maybe this should be a lesson to you the next time YOU want to respond to someone with your characteristically uncaring, flippant, run-on-sentence-laden responses. It doesn’t feel as good as people trying to see from your perspective and respect your feelings. 

Post # 53
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8279 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I am closing this thread down. It was meant for OP to vent about her ruin dress and it now turning into personal attacks. 

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