(Closed) Vent – My mom doesn't respect that I didn't change my name.

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

thelibrarylady:  It’s literally dumb… but because private matters fall under civil law in Quebec everything is a bit different.. ah well.. i shouldve stayed my a** in Ontario hahaha

Post # 17
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8663 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

canuck24:  if you aren’t willing to just ignore her I would probably write “return to sender” on literally everything she sends you with the intentional wrong name. It’s a bold move but if it’s that important to you it’s worth a shot.

Post # 18
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9375 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

My mom is just like this and it’s clearly a generational thing — she thinks that taking your husband’s name is what’s “supposed” to be done and can’t fathom why someone wouldn’t do it. I love her, and she’s entitled to her opinion, but I’m an adult now and am not going to make my own life decisions on what my mom wants anymore, so it is what it is. She’ll get used to it.

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

canuck24:  Exact same thing happened to me…and I’ve been married twice before.  Both times whenever my mother sent me anything, it would be addressed to ‘Mrs hisfirstname hislastname’…what really pissed me off in both cases is that I did change my surname!  It was being called by ‘hisfirstname’ that made my blood boil.  I repeatedly asked her not to do it, that I was not a man, and I had own first name – that she fucking gave to me!

She never got the message.  You should be prepared for the same outcome.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

MeandMyLouboutins:  It’s the same in Australia now.  Your name on your passport must match what is on your birth certificate.  You can change your birth certificate, and it doesn’t cost much, but apparently there is a huge backlog. 

I have both a UK and an Australian passport.  I’ve already told Fiance that when we marry I won’t be taking his last name because of this.  I don’t mind changing my last name, but I’m not changing my birth name for anyone.

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