(Closed) Vent- My parents want me to buy them a cruise

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I’m a bit confused – so you already sent them on a cruise once and now they want another one? Or was that other family members? Either way, that’s extremely rude of your mother to ask especially since you don’t have a close relationship.

If she pushes the topic again, tell her you pay bills, pay for a wedding, retirement and college for your son and any other future children.Tell them that cruise was a one-time thank you for their help when you were going through a tough situation.

If she doesn’t relent – get nasty 😛 Tell her well if you think I live like I’m broke and don’t seem to spend money on myself, what makes you think I want to spend it on you?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thats just …WOW.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

She still talks and does favors for your ex-husband who abused you? That’s messed up.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Luckygal5571: well geez, isn’t somebody being a bit presumptious? Especially if like a PP said, they are still consorting with your ex. That’s really nice of them.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow! Hmm ..if she asked again I would say “When you win the lottery mom you can take us all on a cruise. Im broke!”  That was a brazen question to ask. So sorry 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Wow.  You’re such a better person than I.  I don’t think we would even be speaking on the phone, let alone in the same car, if that is how she is.  Maybe you should just cut them out of your life.  Honestly, you can look back and see how toxic your ex was and wonder why you took all that abuse…you should look at your parents in the same light.  What they are doing is emotional abuse.  If they can’t be bothered to remember your birthday and are always yelling about money…why even bother having a relationship with them?  That is not healthy.  They need to change their behavior or take a one-way trip to F*** off ville.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is an entirely reasonable request on your mothers part – in OPPOSITE land !!! 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just ignore her and if she brings it up again, laugh out loud at the idea.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Tell her no. Be honest. Geez, can you imagine spending that much money on everyone of their birthdays???

Oh and I would limit the amount of money u give them. If u keep giving, they will keep asking.

I dont know. Tell her u had no plans to pay for another cruise. All your money is going to important things with YOUR family(FI, son and yourself).

Oh and when u do catch up, just because you have more and extra money does not obligate you to give that to anyone. Its your money, you can do with it what u want.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

My maternal grandparents essentially became my dad’s family when he got married.  And all that acceptance and love he needed they were more than happy to give.  If I were you I would forge a relationship with your F-ILs, and seek your acceptance and love with them.  Some people are dealt a rough hand, and I’m sorry your family isn’t there for you.  🙁

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t have anything to say except, omg and wow. I would be SO MAD.

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