(Closed) Vent: My relationship is starting to feel like a lie :(

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
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2080 posts
Buzzing bee

@rubyred605:  

Dive on in, date as many people as possible, and don’t mess around.  If you don’t like a guy after 3-4 dates, don’t see him.  I highly recommend being honest and saying you are looking for marriage

 

LOL, I love this advice. This is exactly what I did after a really bad break-up. I found DH quickly and I am much older than OP! (I’m now 50!)

 

Post # 78
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629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh, this is hard for you :/  This is not the man for you. He’s not into it enough and you’ve waited long enough. Move on and find REAL love. About having a baby…you have options. Freeze eggs, adopt, sperm donor whatever you choose. Make your own life. Single motherhood is tremendously hard – do you have family support if you choose that direction? Remember that desperation is not an attractive attribute but confidence is. Your current BF is too immature for marriage and parenthood. I’d also think long and hard about why you want to have a child. Do you want a baby as a natural outcome of a being in a loving relationship or so you can experience motherhood? It’s the hardest job you’ll ever have.

Post # 79
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@rubyred605:  I actually met my Fiance on match.com (surprise) and we were engaged a little after a year. 

Post # 80
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i agree with the other ladies who are being so encouraging about dating after things don’t work out with this guy.  after i broke up with an ex, i just threw myself into dating. i dated 5 guys at one time. it was an absolute blast and really helped me find what i was looking for.  if i didn’t like a guy after a date or two or three, i just moved on.  it’s amazing what confidence can do for you.

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