(Closed) [Vent] No! You can't use those songs!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@GamersBride:  eff that, use whatever you want babe. Sissy will have to get over herself. 

Post # 78
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had a friend tell me years and years ago before either of us were anywhere near getting engaged (and she still hasn’t even had a boyfriend to this day) that I cannot use this one beautiful song because it was hers and she will seriously not be my friend anymore if I used it. She called dibs on baby names too (a lot of them). wtf!

If she was getting married too and had already decided this then I would understand but she’s not in a position to demand this of you. 

USE THE SONGS!!

Post # 79
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803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

@Hyperventilate:  +1 haha! YES!!!

 

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@GamersBride:  I’m with everyone else and think you should hold your ground in your decision, but it’s easy for us to say, I guess, not being in your exact situation. In all your comments you seem like you are going to let her have her way. Though I don’t think that is a good idea, telling her that the songs are crap and cliche is the best way to do it (that i’ve read) Then again, I may be a bit more on the revenge vrs the resolve side.
good luck! 

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Your mother should really help you point out to your sister how unreasonable she’s being about this. I’m sorry it’s come to this.

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@GamersBride:  

So what happens if you guys decide to buy a house and she decides the style is to close to what she wants in a house? What if you guys get pregnant and she decides that it had better be a boy because she wants to have a girl? Why are you letting her control you? Let her have her damn tantrum. You’re enabling her just as much as your mother is.

Post # 82
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2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

She doesn’t own those songs. What a brat! Tell her to grow up and deal. Promise her when she gets married that you will not cry the blues about her using “Your songs”.

Update – I just saw where you are planning to change the songs because of her. Do as you wish, but it’s a bad move. Stop catering to the brat!

 

Post # 83
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Use the songs. If your sister wants to be a brat about it, everyone in the world except your mother will realize what a brat she’s being and blame her, not you. DO NOT CHANGE THE SONGS.

Don’t let yourself be walked all over just because your sister is acting like a teenager. The reason people STOP acting like immature teenagers is because people stop pandering to them, and it’s obvious that won’t come from your mother.

If she doesn’t attend your wedding, so what? She’s not actually an integral part of you getting married the way your fiance is, and if she’s that immature, I wouldn’t even want her there. I mean really. If two songs are more important to her than you are, why is SHE so important to YOU? She’s sounds like a spoiled bitch, and I would not cater to her for a single goddamn thing. That she called your fiance AT WORK is even more reason. That is ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE.

You recognize that your mother is enabling her, but you don’t seem to recognize that if you change your songs because of her, you are enabling her as well. Don’t be an enabler.

 

Post # 84
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3329 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Please use the songs you like. It’s your wedding. 

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I wouldn’t change them. I know you said you don’t feel the songs are worth the drama, but you are reinforcing her bad behavior by doing what she wants. If you still feel strongly about letting her “have” the songs I would do this: tell her you won’t use the songs but she MUST use them for her wedding. No matter what. She’s locked in. She’s forcing you to change them because she wants so badly to use them so she sure as shit better. And tell her if the time comes and she decides not to use them you will not be attending her wedding.

If you decide not to give in, another route would be to tell her she doesn’t have to worry about not coming if you use the songs because she is no longer invited. This would be another calling her bluff tactic, I’m not legit suggesting you should uninvite her (though if I were you I would. I don’t put up with shit like that, no matter how important the person is to me).

At this point I would just show her this thread so she can see how ridiculous she is being (show your mom too).

Post # 86
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@GamersBride:  wait… WHO is acting like a 12 year old here? my god!

Post # 87
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@GamersBride:  Your sister sounds like a major brat and your mom sounds like she’s supporting that behavior. Just ignore them and go with your songs.

Post # 89
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m sorry. 30 days out? I’m not changing JACK unless I want to. Don’t come then. Remember for the rest of your life that you boycotted your sister’s wedding because she didn’t cave to a tantrum you threw about the songs you wanted to play at your imaginary wedding. But…that’s just the point I’m at right now. I don’t have it in me to constantly check and make sure everybody’s “ok.” At this point, I get absolutely disgusted when people try to make other people’s weddings about them.

Post # 91
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321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@somethingaquamarine:  +1

 

Your sister and mom are being a bit silly, if your sister isnt even in a relatioship then she has no right to say you  cant use these songs that she will when she gets married.  I would use the songs.  And your mom should see this and still make your sister understand and come to the wedding. 

 

These are the times I am happy I have a brother, lol

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