Post # 1
…and I feel most comfortable here, even though this should prob be on the relationship boards. Whatev. Here goes:
Are there any other gals out there whose SO’s are gamers? Specifically World of Warcraft? I don’t mind that he plays, it’s the amount of time that he spends playing, and how it seems the rest of the house could burn down around him, and he’d have no clue. When he’s got his headphones on, talking with all his fellow players, a friggin’ tornado could rip by, and he’d be none the wiser! (I exaggerate, but still.) I really try not to complain too much/often, b/c there are waaay worse things he could be doing in his spare time, like out drinking with his buddies, or *gasp* something cliche like playing golf (I kid, golf is fine) but grrrrrrr, I feel soooooo ignored when he’s on there. For hours. Every day. And on his days off from work, we’re talking 10-12 hours of the stuff. Not straight through, he takes meal breaks etc, but I’ve done the math, and I’m not exaggerating, I promise.
Vent over. I think. What about the rest of you gals? Any similar gripes? Even if it’s not gaming, per se?
Post # 3
I should also add that I’ve brought up how I feel about it before, and he cuts back for a while. But then it’s back to the same ol same ol. And like I said, I really feel bad about complaining, b/c it seems so trivial, but gaaahhhh, I can’t help the way I feel.
Post # 4
Fiance used to be like this with Counterstrike. He was so lame, he and his friends would get together for “CS” strategy meetings. When we first started dating he would play for HOURS. I hated that game. Now he plays Call of Duty but nowhere near as much as he played Counterstrike.
All in all I hate video games in general. Except Singstar, I like Singstar :)!
Post # 5
Yes!! My SO used to be into WoW, but now he plays some dumb-looking game called Team Fortress 2 (no really, it makes WoW look good). Like you said, the house could be falling down around him and he wouldn’t notice. It would really annoy me when we were long distance and I’d only see him on the weekends and he’d still want to play his stupid game for hours and hours. We used to argue about it, but since we’ve moved in together it’ gotten much better. For the most part he stays off of it on the weekends so we can spend time together, go out, and do fun stuff. During the week he plays after work sometimes and I don’t bug him about it. It’s sort of our unspoken compromise.
Post # 6
I feel your pain on this! Raids are the absolute worst. Nothing can happen on raid night. Oh we were supposed to go on a date? Sorry, it’s raid night.
Now he’s replaced it with, I kid you not, Dungeons and Dragons and Vampire. So it went from one raid night a week to two game nights a week. But when these games happen the people fill the apartment and never leave, as opposed to only living on the computer screen.
Post # 7
@McVerde: Ack, TF2, the sounds are so annoying, and the start over every 2 minutes, how can they stand that?
Post # 8
@Wonderwoman217: giiiiiirrrrrrrl do I ever know! I am so flipping glad he is NOT renewing his WoW sub. It was causing arguments. What grown ass man plays video games more than 8 hours in a day? Yes! And he has a fulltime job! He would play in the morning and then play from like 8pm to 3am. RIDAMNDICLOUS! I TRIED to be understanding, but enough was enough. I just started to ignore him like he did me. One night while he wasn’t playing he wanted to do something and I told him point blank I was going out with friends. I stayed away the whole night. lol After doing that a few times he didn’t like it and I told him I was just doing what he was doing. Enjoying something that I could do alone for hours without having to deal with my partner.
Post # 9
OH my gosh! I am cracking up laughing!!! I can SO relate to you ladies! My boyfriend plays World of Warcraft and is obsessed! 🙂 It’s so true, a hurricane or something could happen and he would have no clue since he has his headphones on. I think its so funny when he starts talking to his gamer buddies through his microphone on the headphones about “needing more minerals…etc”! Oh boy…oh, and he also loves Team Fortress and Call of Duty but this World of Warcraft is like a whole other level of obsessiveness! He knows when to stop which is good and there are no issues with his playing excessively to the point that bothers me. It gives me a chance to do my own thing while he’s playing in his office 🙂
Post # 10
@McVerde: I think if it keeps up this way, we’re gonna hafta come up with some sort of compromise, whether spoken or unspoken, lol. It didn’t used to be this bad, as far as the amount of time he’d spend playing, but lately (last several months or so) it’s gotten worse.
@SnuckyFox: YES! Raids ARE the worst! It’s funny you mention date night, b/c I joke that when he’s scarfing down dinner, or in a hurry to get back home if we’re out running errands, etc, that he has a ‘date’ with his WoW buddies, hahaha! It used to bug him, but now he plays along.
@Miss Tattoo: Hahaha, I laughed so hard reading your post! My ‘grown ass man’ works 40 hours a week, too, so I don’t understand how they play until 3 am, either! And occasionally (like tonight for example) when he’s ignoring me especially hardcore, I’ll just close the door to his little nerd cave, and, ‘shut him out’, so to speak. Eventually he emerges a little more lovey dovey than norm, ’cause he knows I’m pissed, but we never say anything.
So glad to once again find comraderie amongst my fellow bees! Thanks, ladies!
Post # 11
Ah I am a WoW widow too. For a while I was playing, but I’m just not good at it and I really don’t like sitting in front of the computer like that.. I just can’t do it! Seriously, he would spend every waking moment playing games (and he usually does!), I just don’t get it!!
It caused a lot of fights and I have to say he’s much better about it. We made up a schedule where he will play however long he wants 3 days a week. This way we can make plans and I don’t have to worry about him raiding or whatever and I know to leave him alone on his “game nights”. It’s deff worked much better for us and there have been wayyyy less game-related arguments since then.
I know what you’re saying about the headphones too. Seriously, the house could be falling down and he wouldn’t even know it. He bought these uber expensive ones… I will be standing next to him yelling and he won’t hear me. I usually don’t even bother venturing into “the man cave” (that’s what he likes to call it — I like nerd cave much better ;)! ) since he can’t hear me. Oh and even when he can hear me, he’s not really listening anyways.
**Throws hands up in the air**
I named his computer Alice and tell my friends/family that she’s his mistress. He loves her more than me FOR SURE! 😉